05/14/2026
Just a couple of weeks ago ya’ll were stomping up and down the internet hollering “wE nEeD a mAtRiArChAl sOcIeTy!!!”
But ya’ll don’t want matriarchy.
Because co-creating and maintaining a matriarchal society would require that you expand your concept of motherhood and mothering, and you would rather drag your coochie across hot asphalt than do that.
The fact that people didn’t miss the opportunity to turn Mother’s Day into a fight over deservingness instead of a broader conversation about care, attachment, nurturing, interdependence, and community shows how much ya’ll like to lie and you don’t actually want to be free.
Especially because motherhood under patriarchy is already politicized, stratified, and racialized.
We already know whose motherhood is protected.
👉🏾 Whose motherhood is criminalized.
👉🏾 Whose children are considered innocent.
👉🏾 Whose parenting is monitored.
👉🏾 Whose reproduction is controlled.
👉🏾 Whose grief is humanized.
👉🏾Whose caregiving is expected but devalued.
You are are still deeply emotionally invested in hierarchy, exclusivity, legitimacy, and social gatekeeping.
A matriarchal ethic would require:
🌱 Interdependence
🌱 Collective responsibility
🌱 Expansive care
🌱 Relational accountability
🌱 Redistribution
🌱 De-centering dominance itself
Not simply moving women into positions of authority within the same scarcity-based framework.
