14/06/2026
You’re not calming your child(ren) first.
You’re calming the room by calming you.
And one of the most powerful things you can do before bedtime — especially when a new sibling has arrived — is a pre-bedtime reconnection.
Five to ten minutes.
Before the routine begins.
A simple signal that says:
“You matter. This is your time.”
It might look like:
• A cuddle on the couch
• Two minutes of following their play
• Letting them choose the game
“Should mummy be a dinosaur or a puppy?”
I’m a big fan of timers with toddlers and young kids.
It gives their nervous system a clear start and finish.
And those small moments of connection before separation approaches can completely change the tone of bedtime.
Because regulation grows from connection first.
🎧 Listen to Calming Toddlers at Bedtime After a New Sibling Arrives: A Nervous System–Led Approach
Learn more:
https://shineom.com.au/calming-toddler-bedtime-new-sibling
Also available on Spotify, Apple Podcasts, Amazon Music & YouTube.
YouTube - https://youtu.be/pRnNl7LRW2g?si=7d208U5dT78raz-i
Spotify- https://open.spotify.com/episode/7B4FfIGIiPVAuC7njPjlaO?si=OTkWEEMERtaTjyuy95f09Q