03/03/2026
Valentine’s may be a full two weeks behind us. Black History Month/February is behind us as of this past Sunday... whether we’re talking about love or Black History, it’s important to make time for both on an ongoing basis for ourselves & the world around us.
Love is an extremely powerful force. It is so powerful that, throughout history, it has regularly been the target of those in power who love cruelty for their own selfish gain. The closer you are to the approved form of Whiteness, able-bodied, neurotypical, & straight, the less violently & directly your love is stigmatized, policed, & oppressed. The more Black you are, the more you & your love are violently & directly stigmatized, policed, & oppressed on top of further oppressing you for being Q***r, Neurodivergent, &/or Disabled. The darker your skin, the more visible your disability, neurodivergence, or sexuality, the more you are simultaneously infantilized, fetishized, & profited off of. The forces that oppress Black people & their rights use the same power to oppress everyone else, including white, able-bodied, cis folks.
However, this post isn’t meant to be depressing. One reason that oppressive forces control, manipulate, & try to commodify romance is that what is created by Q***r people, Neurodivergent People, Disabled People, People of the Global Majority & absolutely Black People, in love & human connection, is power, is beauty, is joy, is universal & can create wonders.
Share love
Embrace love
Celebrate love
Bolster love
Protect love
In doing so, we support each other and build toward something truly beautiful.