01/11/2026
Horse people are a fascinating species.
We'll spend thousands trying to understand why a horse pinned its ears at another horse, then spend an entire weekend doing the human equivalent to each other.
And somehow, we're surprised there's so much negativity in our sport.
I've spent a good part of this week talking about how much fun we're losing in the equestrian world.
And I've come to a rather inconvenient conclusion.
I don't think the horses are the problem. I think we might be.
When did bumping into someone at a show require a full risk assessment? When did saying hello to the wrong person become a political statement? And why does an innocent conversation sometimes come with more terms and conditions than a horse sale agreement?
Good grief. I just wanted to ride my horse, not apply for diplomatic immunity.
And the gossip! If we put half the effort into our riding that we put into investigating who said what to whom, we'd all be competing at Grand Prix by Christmas.
Meanwhile, somewhere in a paddock, a horse is eating R400 worth of hay while his owner dissects the same WhatsApp message for the third day running.
But here's where things get awkward.
We all complain about the negativity. The yards, the shows, the people, the politics. Nobody supports anyone. Everyone has an opinion. Nothing ever changes.
And yet, somehow, nobody is contributing to it.
Fascinating.
Apparently, the entire industry's negativity is being generated by approximately six people, and absolutely none of us know who they are.
We're all just innocent bystanders. With screenshots.
Now, I'm not suggesting we all hold hands, sing Kumbaya and braid each other's horses. Some personalities are best appreciated from the opposite end of a very large paddock. Preferably with electric fencing.
But surely we can manage a little perspective?
Congratulate a child without mentioning who wasn't competing. Welcome a newcomer without conducting a background investigation. Disagree without needing three witnesses and an emergency WhatsApp group.
And when someone tries to do something positive, perhaps support them instead of immediately explaining why it won't work.
Because the people with the most detailed complaints aren't always the ones queuing up to help make things better.
It's easy to criticise. Less convenient to volunteer, offer solutions or actually get involved.
And before anyone starts mentally tagging their favourite moany polony, this applies to us too.
Me included. I've got opinions. Plenty of them. Some are even useful. But not every thought needs an audience, and not every irritation deserves a committee meeting.
We can be passionate without being unpleasant, competitive without being petty, and knowledgeable without making everyone else feel like an idiot.
Because I genuinely don't think people are falling out of love with horses.
I think they're getting tired of everything that comes with loving them.
Which is rather sad considering we voluntarily wake up at ridiculous hours, spend money we don't have on animals that regularly attempt to bankrupt us, and call this our happy place.
Surely we could at least make the people part enjoyable?
So next time we're complaining about the negativity in our sport, perhaps we should ask ourselves:
Am I actually doing anything to make it better, or am I just providing the running commentary?
Because if we're not willing to be part of the change, perhaps we could occasionally be part of the silence.