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09/06/2026

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bUxhQC2NEv8

A reflection on Nietzsche’s warning that when we gaze into an abyss...

09/05/2026

Be Careful When Hunting Monsters

Beware that when fighting monsters you yourself do not become a monster. For when you gaze long enough into an abyss, the abyss also gazes into you.”

— Friedrich Nietzsche



I’ve been thinking about this quote.



I was listening to the murder trial of Lindsay Clancy, the Massachusetts mother accused of killing her three children.



And I found myself scrolling, listening to commentators, and taking in more and more about the case.



And it was so much.



I could feel my mind thinking about all of these things, and honestly, I didn’t want them in my mind.



I was becoming obsessed, distracted, and irratated like I was hunting a monster.



So I did a few practices that helped me get clear.



And this thought came to me, “I don’t need to know more about these things; These things need prayer.”



So I prayed.



I prayed for everyone involved.



I prayed that we could learn from this and hold our kids closer.



And I prayed that things like this wouldn’t consume our lives.



You see, there is so much good in the world that we never hear about.



But the monstrous things get the limelight.



And that can make us think the world is bad.



But that’s not true.



There is so much news that happens in a day, but we rarely hear about all the good things.



The terrible things get broadcasted.



And we end up hunting these monsters in our minds, staring into the abyss of these news stories.



And what does that do to us?

https://bertastacio.com/be-careful-when-hunting-monsters/

08/31/2026

“When things go wrong, don’t go with them.”
Anonymous

08/29/2026

Thanks for Helping Me Celebrate What Matters

I’m celebrating something big!



But first, a little story...



Years ago, I finished my 12th speech in Toastmasters and officially became a Toastmaster.



Toastmasters is an organization that helps people become better public speakers, and completing 12 guided speeches is no small accomplishment.



Especially for someone like me.



In sixth grade, I had to give a speech in class.



My hands were shaking so badly that I dropped my paper. Instead of picking it up and continuing, I bent down and pretended to tie my shoe—because who wanted to stand back up there? 🤷🏽‍♂️



I was so nervous to speak in public, so finishing those speeches meant a lot to me.



Except…



I forgot to celebrate that I did it.



I read in a book that celebrating our accomplishments is important. It teaches our brains and nervous systems that our hard work matters and I wasn't used to celbrating myself.



So I decide to force mysefl to do it.



I got out of my car, walked back toward the building with the papers I was carrying, threw them high into the air, and yelled as loud as I could.



Papers went everywhere.



I must have looked completely crazy.



But I wanted to wire into my nervous system that success is something worth celebrating.



Otherwise, why work so hard to achieve it?



Which brings me to today.



From the guy who doesn’t really like attention and would rather stay under the radar…



I’m again forcing myself to celebrate something that means a great deal to me by sharing it with you.

https://bertastacio.com/thank-you-for-helping-me-celebrate-what-matters/

08/26/2026

https://youtu.be/9yYA06DjbXI

After hearing the story of 17-year-old Colin, who is dying of cance...

08/25/2026

"the most important thing is to remember the most important thing" Suzuki Roshi.

Question: What do you think is the most important thing?

08/22/2026

There's Something Pretty Special Outside

There was a boy named Colin.



He was 17 years old, and I was at his celebration of life at a high school.



Colin died of cancer.



He loved being outdoors so much that the card they gave us showed him studying for finals on a beach in Hawaii while he was sick with cancer.



You could tell he was a fighter.



You could also tell he was a really good kid.



Unfortunately, the treatments weren’t working, and Colin wanted to stop them.



His parents eventually had to hire an attorney to help honor his wish.



At his celebration of life, they told a story I’ll never forget.



Colin eventually became so sick that he was bedridden. It was a cold November day—one of those days when the rain is falling sideways and it’s absolutely freezing outside.



Colin was sobbing in his bed because he couldn’t get outside.



His stepfather picked him up and carried him outside into the rain.



And that story has stayed with me.



I remember thinking:



If a dying boy’s last wish is to get outside, there must be something pretty special out there.



I’ve never forgotten that.



I run a couple of times a week, consistently, in all kinds of weather.



One of the reasons I’m able to get out there is because of Colin.



He stays with me.



And that’s why I’m sharing his story.


read more here:

https://bertastacio.com/theres-something-pretty-special-outside/

08/15/2026

Oh Boy, Oh Boy, Oh Boy!!


I think you’re going to love this because I loved hearing it, and I wanted to share it with you.



A man in a class I attend shared a story with us.



He had a coach who taught him that whenever something challenging happened, he should say:



“Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy. I can’t wait to see the good that comes out of this.”



One day, he was at the theater with his girlfriend.



When they came out to his car, he discovered that he had received a parking ticket.



He immediately said, loudly:



“Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy! I can’t wait to see the good that comes out of this!”



His girlfriend looked at him, startled.



“You’re weird,” she said.



And then she broke up with him.



He paused for a moment and said:



“Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy. I can’t wait to see the good that comes out of this.”



A few months later, he met another woman.

read more:

A simple phrase—“Oh boy, oh boy, oh boy, I can’t wait to see the good that comes out of this”—can completely change the way we experience difficult moments. Instead of getting stuck in frustration, fear, or disappointment, we can choose to trust that something good may emerge. Through seve...

08/10/2026

https://youtube.com/shorts/sJvaw3n5KNQ

What does success and kids have in common? This video explains why ...

08/08/2026

Carrying The Dead Body
This lesson may be one of the most important things we can learn.



He murdered someone in her family.



And now she had the chance to get revenge.



They were out on a boat.

His hands were bound and he was about to be thrown overboard for his crimes against her family.



But there was one final decision to make.



She could save him.



Or she could let him drown.



No one would charge her with a crime because this was the custom of the village.



If you hurt someone, you could be hurt in return—and the victim got to decide.



But there was a catch.



If she chose not to save him, she would get justice, but she would not get healing.



If she chose to save him, she could heal, but she would never get justice.



So which would you choose?



Now, maybe don’t think about murder.



Think about the person who hurt you deeply.



What if they cheated on you—and you got to watch them be cheated on?



What if they stole from you—and everything they loved was taken from them?



What if they abused you—and you got to see them suffer the same pain they caused?



Would you want it?



Would you choose justice or healing?



These are the kinds of questions that make forgiveness so difficult—and so important.



A lot of people think forgiveness means being naive, weak, or saintly.



But true forgiveness is none of those things.



Forgiveness isn’t pretending something didn’t happen.



It isn’t saying what they did was okay.



And it doesn’t mean allowing someone to continue hurting you.



Forgiveness is releasing your life from being chained to the wound.



That’s why justice and healing are often very different things.



Justice evens the score.



Healing frees the soul.



Sometimes they happen together.



But often they don’t.



Sometimes people do things that can never be justified—horrible, cruel, life-altering things.



And yet we can still decide to let go.



Why?



Because freedom matters more than revenge.



Carrying unforgiveness is like carrying an injury long after the event is over.



Healing requires something different from punishment.



It requires us to process the pain instead of becoming it.



To learn from it instead of living inside it.



To care for ourselves enough that we no longer need someone else to suffer before we can breathe again.



That’s the real work.



I know people who haven’t forgiven others who say, “Oh, I just don’t think about it anymore. I don’t care.”



But sometimes we don’t realize what resentment is costing us because we’re so used to carrying it.

read more here:

Summary: Forgiveness doesn’t mean excusing what someone did, forgetting the pain, or abandoning healthy boundaries. It means choosing to stop carrying the wound and allowing yourself to heal. Justice may punish the person who hurt you, but healing frees you from remaining emotionally chained to th...