08/24/2026
Our avoidance of conflict stands in the way of great performances.
In the latest episode of The Interview, Priya Parker argues that our inability to normalize conflict is holding us back—at home, at work, and, in my view, in sport.
The highest-performing teams don't avoid difficult conversations. They develop the ability to have them well.
Healthy conflict isn't about arguing more. It's about creating an environment where people feel safe enough to challenge ideas, surface concerns, and hold one another accountable. That's how values become real, trust grows stronger, and relationships deepen.
The good news? Like any performance skill, productive conflict can be learned.
So how do we help our teams lean into conflict?
• Develop self-awareness. The more aware we are of our emotions, triggers, and behaviors, the less likely we are to avoid uncomfortable conversations.
• Double down on purpose and values. A clear, shared purpose keeps people grounded. When everyone knows what they're working toward and what they stand for, conflict becomes about improving performance—not protecting egos.
• Build a debriefing culture. Review every meeting, practice, and performance—even if only for a few minutes. Regular reflection normalizes honest feedback before issues become major problems.
Conflict doesn't divide great teams—it refines them.
Healthy conflict = stronger relationships, better decisions, and ultimately better performance.
What is one thing your team does to make healthy conflict part of its culture?
https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/an-expert-on-conflict-says-your-relationships-are/id1624946521?i=1000785038554