09/19/2026
A Coach’s Advice to Parents — With All Respect ❤️
Don’t compare your child to anyone else.
Every child grows, learns, and develops at their own pace. A coach should never rush your child’s progress just to make you happy.
Your child is not you.
They are learning to become their own person. Don’t compare them to who you were at their age, and don’t place your own expectations on their shoulders.
You and your child are a team, absolutely. But remember something important: your child is the one stepping on the mats. They are the one putting in the time, feeling the fear, facing the obstacles, winning, losing, and learning to try again.
If you really want to understand what they experience, consider trying jiu-jitsu yourself. Stepping onto the mats, learning something new, feeling uncomfortable, and facing the challenges firsthand can give you a deeper appreciation for what your child is going through.
Support them. Encourage them. Trust their coaches. Celebrate their effort.
But don’t live jiu-jitsu through your child.
Let them have their own story, their own journey, and their own growth. ❤️🥋
Sometimes the best thing we can do as parents and coaches is give them the tools… and then give them the space to grow.
