How To Help My Child

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Your autistic or ADHD child does not need a perfect parent.They need you.Someone who loves them.Someone who fights for t...
09/02/2026

Your autistic or ADHD child does not need a perfect parent.
They need you.
Someone who loves them.
Someone who fights for them.
Someone who keeps showing up, even when the day has been hard.

You will not always get it right.
None of us do.But love, repair, and understanding go a long way.
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Are you a Mum raising a child with ADHD or autism?You are allowed to pause before reacting.You do not have to instantly ...
09/01/2026

Are you a Mum raising a child with ADHD or autism?
You are allowed to pause before reacting.
You do not have to instantly know whether it is a tantrum or a meltdown.
You do not have to get it perfect every time.

When your child is crying, screaming, dropping to the floor, running away, or losing their words, it can be so hard to think clearly.

So start with safety.

Lower your voice.
Use fewer words.
Move closer if that helps.
Give space if that helps.
Remove what may be overwhelming them.

Then, once everyone is calm, you can look back and ask:

Was my child trying to get something?
Or was their body completely overloaded?

You can learn the difference over time.

You are not alone in this.
I'm here to help.

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09/01/2026

๐—ง๐—ถ๐—ป๐˜† ๐—ง๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฟ, ๐—•๐—ถ๐—ด ๐—ฅ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป
A tiny trigger can create a very big reaction when your child is already overwhelmed.

The wrong cup.
A change of plan.
A sock that feels uncomfortable.
A snack breaking in half.

It may look small from the outside, but your childโ€™s reaction is connected to everything their nervous system has been carrying.

Look beyond the trigger. What happened earlier? What sensory needs, emotions, demands, or changes may have filled their stress cup?

Wondering whether the reaction is a tantrum or a meltdown?
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08/31/2026

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The Journey is my upcoming support community for Moms raising kids with autism, ADHD and sensory needs.
A place for practical guidance, support and Moms who understand.

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The world may ask your neurodivergent child to fit in.But you are reminding them they were never meant to disappear.They...
08/26/2026

The world may ask your neurodivergent child to fit in.
But you are reminding them they were never meant to disappear.

They deserve to be seen.
They deserve to be understood.
They deserve support that honours who they are, not pressure to become someone else.

Your love and advocacy matter.
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A tantrum and a meltdown can look very similar from the outside.Both can involve crying.Both can involve screaming.Both ...
08/25/2026

A tantrum and a meltdown can look very similar from the outside.

Both can involve crying.
Both can involve screaming.
Both can happen in the middle of a shop when everyone seems to be looking.

But what is happening underneath is very different.

A tantrum is usually connected to your child wanting something.

A meltdown happens when your childโ€™s body cannot cope anymore.

That difference matters because you do not respond to overwhelm the same way you respond to a want.

If your child with autism and ADHD stops when they get what they asked for, it was likely a tantrum.

If your child cannot stop, cannot listen, cannot respond, and seems completely overwhelmed, it may be a meltdown.

โฃ๏ธ Same noise.
โฃ๏ธ Different need.
โฃ๏ธ Different support.

Start by asking: โ€œWhat is my childโ€™s body trying to tell me right now?โ€
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08/25/2026

๐—ฃ๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ๐—ฎ๐—น ๐—ฃ๐—ต๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐˜€๐—ฒ๐˜€ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐—ช๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐—ฌ๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—–๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—›๐—ฎ๐˜€ ๐—ฎ ๐— ๐—ฒ๐—น๐˜๐—ฑ๐—ผ๐˜„๐—ป
During a meltdown, fewer words are usually better.

Try calm, simple phrases like:
โ€œIโ€™m here.โ€
โ€œYou are safe.โ€
โ€œWe can talk when your body feels calmer.โ€
โ€œYou do not have to explain right now.โ€
โ€œIโ€™ll stay close.โ€

Your child may not be able to process instructions, questions, or long explanations in that moment.
Calm helps more than control.

Not sure whether you are dealing with a tantrum or a meltdown?
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08/04/2026

๐—ช๐—ต๐˜† ๐—ง๐—ฟ๐—ฎ๐—ป๐˜€๐—ถ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐—ง๐—ฟ๐—ถ๐—ด๐—ด๐—ฒ๐—ฟ ๐—ข๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—ฟ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—น๐—บ ๐—ถ๐—ป ๐—”๐——๐—›๐—— ๐—ž๐—ถ๐—ฑ๐˜€
โ€œJust turn it off and come to dinnerโ€ may sound simple to us.

But for your child with ADHD, stopping one activity, shifting attention, and starting something new can take a lot of mental energy.

That resistance may not be defiance. Your child may need more time, clearer warnings, and help moving from one thing to the next.

Small changes in how we prepare children for transitions can make a big difference.

Wondering whether the reaction is a tantrum or a meltdown?

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07/31/2026

Playdates can sound simple. But when you are raising a child with autism or ADHD, they can feel like a whole planning event.

โฃ๏ธ Will my child know what to do?
โฃ๏ธ Will the other child understand them?
โฃ๏ธ What if they donโ€™t want to share?
โฃ๏ธ What if they get overwhelmed?
โฃ๏ธ What if it all goes wrong?

๐˜”๐˜ฐ๐˜ฎ, ๐˜ ๐˜จ๐˜ฆ๐˜ต ๐˜ช๐˜ต.

Playdates do not have to be long, loud, or perfectly social to be successful.
Sometimes the best playdate is short, predictable, and built around something your child already enjoys.

๐ŸŒŸ A quiet park visit.
๐ŸŒŸ Lego side by side.
๐ŸŒŸ A sensory bin.
๐ŸŒŸ A walk with scooters.
๐ŸŒŸ A simple craft.
๐ŸŒŸ A favourite board game.
๐ŸŒŸ A snack and one planned activity.

For our kids with autism and ADHD, connection can look different.
And that is ok.

The goal is not to force the perfect friendship moment.
The goal is to create a little space where your child feels safe enough to connect in their own way.

๐Ÿ’– Want help supporting your child with friendships and social skills? Comment FRIENDSHIP and Iโ€™ll send you my free guide.

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