01/05/2022
I have always felt a lot of sympathy for women who believe that their husbands or boyfriends will protect them from violent crime. Probably because in my heart I still love the idea of the knight in shining armor who protects the damsel from distress.
Reality is a little more harsh.
Present circumstances aside, it is a rare couple that spends 24 hours a day in each other’s company. He goes to work, you go to work, he goes to the gym, you go run errands, you meet up at the end of the day and that’s it. You spend, what? Maybe 10 hours a day together, maybe... but a whole lot more time apart.
No matter how desperately he might want to protect you, he’s simply unlikely to be there when you need him to fight a bad guy.
And that’s not even taking into account the fact that bad guys tend to look for solo victims to attack.
So you really are on your own when it comes to self-defense. In fact, maybe that’s why they call it *self* defense. You are literally the only person that we know for sure will be there if you are ever attacked.
That’s why it’s so important to get the skills to protect yourself. This is true even when you have family members and loved ones who have the skills and the willingness to help protect you. Because they won’t always be there to help no matter how desperately they might want to be.
One more thing. If you *are* together when a criminal chooses to attack, your competent and capable loved one might need (and would almost certainly prefer to have) competent and capable help. That’s you!
My files are full of stories about home invasions and criminal events where a family worked together to protect each member. I think it is beautiful when every member of the family is a full member of the team — not a liability but an asset
