10/09/2026
As an overthinker, I can have a thousand thoughts before doing one simple thing.
What if I offend someone?
What if they misunderstand me?
What if I say the wrong thing?
What if they don’t like me?
Add people-pleasing to that, and you can spend years making sure everybody else is comfortable while slowly making yourself smaller.
I know that woman.
I’m a firstborn daughter. For so much of my life, I felt responsible for everyone else being okay. My siblings. My friends. The people I worked with.
I became good at reading rooms, avoiding confrontation and keeping everyone happy.
But I wasn’t always asking:
BB, what do YOU want?
Being seen has also been something I’ve had to work through.
Making mistakes.
Using my voice.
Being misunderstood.
Being too excited.
Taking up space.
Even my hair has been a huge insecurity for me. For years I carried this belief that I needed to look a certain way to be fully received.
So now, if you see a woman dressing differently, taking herself for coffee, moving her camera around in public, laughing loudly, starting the business, posting the video or simply looking happy…
leave her alone.
You have no idea what she had to overcome inside herself that morning just to enjoy that moment without judging herself.
Some of us aren’t trying to get attention.
We’re learning how to stop hiding.
And to the woman who needs this today:
It’s safe to be seen.
You’re probably already unsettling people by becoming more of yourself anyway, so you may as well do it by being fully, unapologetically you, my love.
Take the photo.
Move the camera.
Wear the outfit.
Use your voice.
You don’t need permission to be yourself.
Always shine,
BB 🤍