18/07/2023
My “Personal Development” Trap 🪤
I was always in front of the room shouting out to anyone who would listen that “Personal Development” was what you needed to do in order grow; and do; and become; and have… more…
But I think I might have had it all wrong!
You see, I had it in my mind that personal development was what you were , to and (RLL) - and that if you were RLL to the “right” things, then you were DOING personal development! So I would tell people “I am doing loads of personal development” but it was really bullsh…. Because nothing was changing in my life.
Reading about gym workouts won’t make you any fitter, leaner or stronger! Listening to someone working out at gym doesn’t build any muscle.
I have come to understand that while choosing wisely what you listen to, read and learn is massively important… and influences our thinking and therefore our behaviour… it’s not personal development.
Personal Development comes only as an . In what we DO!
▪️In facing the rejections. And keeping on.
▪️In handling the challenges life throws at us, and still finding the energy and attitude and resources to do the work that needs to be done.
▪️In doing the activity that makes a difference in whatever work we do, and not letting ANY excuse be the reason we don’t.
▪️In saying no to what does not serve us.
▪️In saying yes to the disciplines that grow us.
▪️In making actual measurable progress!
▪️In seeing the numbers change.
That’s !
Cambridge Dictionary defines “development” as “the process in which someone or something grows or changes and becomes more advanced”.
So personal development therefore means we need to actually (physically or metaphysically) ! ! ! ! And unless we can measure that in numbers somewhere, in some form… all the books and listening and learning mean squat/nothing/nada.
Want ?
Go outside and talk to a stranger. Talk to them about your vision, your dream, your purpose and why you would love them to come on this adventure with you. And face the consequences. That’s a good start.
