17/06/2026
Many of my clients get so frustrated trying to figure out why they hurt. Over and over again they blame structures of their body calling them “bad” or “broken” parts.
They seek to understand external forces that cause the pain: bed, pillow, chair, shoes, etc.
Even when they acknowledge stressors working on them creating worry and ruminating thoughts, never fully being able to “relax”…they still want to know what’s wrong with their body.
The seeking of body-based reasons, rather than accepting stress-based reasons causes a great deal of suffering. This suffering only makes pain worse.
It’s really no wonder that women want to blame their body for pain. They have heard the body is to blame for problems all their life.
They blame their body for lack of acceptance and belonging because it doesn’t “look” a certain way.
They’ve been taught to stop listening to their body’s sensations, like hunger, and control urges and desires.
It’s easy to blame the body for not being “perfect”.
But to really understand chronic pain, women need to go ‘beneath’ the body and begin to notice what causes the tension and tightness. They need to practice accepting their body exactly as it is and seek deeper reasons for why the body feels the way it does.
Thoughts and beliefs that bubble up during quiet moments is a great place to start exploring those deeper reasons.
If you’re interested in going deeper to explore your pain, I’m offering a 3-part mini retreat in Columbus, OH in July. Head to the link in my bio to learn more.