03/19/2022
When your friend uses hip throws to say hello, just assume the position, smile & fly. โฃ
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I saw a quote by Sara Kuburic on .therapist that reads; " I don't want to hurt their feelings. [Then the author cross that line out and starts overโฆ], I am going to be honest, WHILE being respectful and gentle about how I present my truth. Lying does not honor the other person nor my values" โฃ
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๐๐ผ๐บ๐บ๐๐ป๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป = ๐๐ฒ๐ ๐โฃ
We have gotten used to RUNNING LIKE H*ll away from communication, to our ABSOLUTELY DETRIMENT because it makes us uncomfortable. UNCOMFORTABLE, ๐ฏ๐ฐ๐ต ๐ช๐ฏ ๐ฅ๐ข๐ฏ๐จ๐ฆ๐ณ, yet we run like a lion thinks we are a zebra๐ฆ. โฃ
When ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐บ๐๐ป๐ถ๐ฐ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป'๐ ๐ผ๐๐๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ ๐ถ๐ ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ ๐ฐ๐ผ๐บ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ด๐ต ๐ฐ๐น๐ฎ๐ฟ๐ถ๐๐. Or, at minimum letting go of the "hold on emotions or information". I challenge you to create a culture alongsides me, based in truth even in hard, cringe-worthy moments. I truely believe & experienced that everything can be worked through when there is honest & tactful conversation about it. Now, donโt get riled up and start asking...what about ___, just keep reading & breathing! Oooosaaa. โฃ
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The "harm" that we fear &, therefore, use as reasoning to not communicate is not directly linked. Harm is an inverse variable in the equation. Harm happens more so when communication is withheld & ๐ข๐ค๐ต๐ช๐ฐ๐ฏ๐ด ๐ข๐ณ๐ฆ ๐ต๐ข๐ฌ๐ฆ๐ฏ ๐ฐ๐ถ๐ต ๐ฐ๐ง ๐ด๐ฉ๐ข๐ฎ๐ฆ, ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ด๐ช๐ด๐ต๐ข๐ฏ๐ค๐ฆ, ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ท๐ฆ๐ฏ๐จ๐ฆ ๐ฐ๐ณ ๐ง๐ฆ๐ข๐ณ. ๐๐ฆ๐ง๐ฐ๐ณ๐ฆ ๐บ๐ฐ๐ถ ๐ณ๐ฆ๐ข๐ค๐ต, sit with it, get some movement in, breathe; then go be brave and have ๐ฐ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป ๐ถ๐ป ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐๐ฝ๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฒ ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ป ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฐ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป. โฃ
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The ๐ต๐ณ๐ถ๐ต๐ฉ does ๐๐๐ have to be shameful.โฃ
๐๐ฉ๐ข๐ฏ๐จ๐ฆ & ๐จ๐ณ๐ฐ๐ธ๐ต๐ฉ aren't out to attack you, just part of the process. โฃ
Revenge, the truth ALWAYS finds its way into the light, so just let God handle that mess.โฃ
๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐๐๐ก ๐๐ ๐๐๐๐ข๐ก๐ฆ๐ง๐ฅ๐จ๐๐ง๐๐ ๐ฉ๐๐ ๐๐ข๐ ๐ ๐จ๐ก๐๐๐๐ง๐๐ข๐ก.โฃ
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So if your goal is to not hurt feelings; then take 20 seconds of courage reach out to say grab a chair & lets talk. โฃ
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