09/06/2026
One of the things we are especially proud of in our academy is the trust our parents place in our coaches.
It can be surprisingly hard to sit on the sidelines while your child struggles. You may see the answer. You may think you know what they should do next. You may desperately want to help them avoid losing a position, getting frustrated, or making a mistake.
And yet, so many of our parents do something incredibly valuable instead.
They let them work through it.
During class, our students need to be listening to their coach, communicating with their training partner, and paying attention to what is happening on the mat. This is important for learning, but it is also important for safety. When a child is trying to process instructions coming from the mat while also looking toward the sidelines for another set of directions, their attention is being pulled away from the person directly in front of them.
There is another reason we value this so much.
Struggling is part of jiu jitsu.
Losing is part of jiu jitsu.
Being confused, getting stuck, trying the wrong thing, and eventually figuring it out is part of jiu jitsu.
As parents, it is natural to want to make those moments easier. But sometimes stepping in too quickly can unintentionally take away the very lesson we brought our kids to jiu jitsu to learn.
How do I stay calm when something is hard?
How do I listen when I am frustrated?
How do I solve a problem without someone solving it for me?
How do I lose, learn, and try again?
Those lessons are bigger than any technique.
So to the parents who sit nearby, cheer them on, trust the process, and let the coaches coach: thank you. Your restraint may not always feel like you are doing something, but you are giving your child room to become more capable, confident, and independent.
And if you train with us yourself and find that you have a genuine passion for teaching and helping others, talk with one of our instructors. Coaching, particularly with children, comes with its own expectations, training, and responsibilities, but for the right student it can become an incredibly rewarding part of their own jiu jitsu journey.