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03/07/2026

Done Waiting Truth Bomb #1 ⚡

They told me I’d miss the benefits of marriage.

At least I kept my kids full time.

03/07/2026

Women buying supplements to fix their life.

Me: removing the thing causing the problem.

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03/05/2026

This photo is over 20 years old.

Most people would look at it and think:
“Wow. She looks beautiful. Confident. Thriving.”

But the truth?

I was dying inside.

At the time this photo was taken, I was at war with myself.
My family system was broken, and I was navigating young adulthood without solid friends, a caring family, or mentors.

Yet there I was.

Smiling.

Social media often teaches us to equate attractiveness with thriving.
Beautiful photos must mean beautiful lives.

But photos capture a moment.
They don’t capture the truth.

That smile you see?
It was covering heartbreak.

Two decades later I can look back at that young woman with compassion.

She was carrying more than anyone knew.

And she survived.

✨ Sometimes the strongest people are the ones smiling in the photos where they were barely holding themselves together.

03/05/2026

Done Waiting™

This morning I recorded a video telling the story of my life before my kids.

One thing I said in it is that I was basically illiterate in relationships.

Not because I’m incapable of love — but because I spent so many years living independently that I became a very sovereign person.

When I tried dating, things that are normal for couples felt overwhelming to me — constant texting, people dropping by unexpectedly, processing emotions in real time with another person. I was used to having space to think and feel first.

At the same time, the desire for children was always there.

When I was a little girl, my fantasy wasn’t getting married. My imagination always included me finding an abandoned baby on the road and bringing her home. I even pictured red curly hair.

Summer was born with red hair.

Life is funny like that.

But honestly, the reason isn’t really the point.

What matters is this:

I looked at my options.
I looked at my life honestly.
And I chose alignment instead of the socially “safe” route.

Because to me, forcing myself into a life that didn’t feel right…
that was never the safe option.

✨ Done Waiting.




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03/05/2026

Last June I wore a dress to Summer’s dance competition and felt insecure about my reflection. My shape was gone. Too many bones showing. I could see how prolonged stress had taken a toll.

I made a decision — not just to get through it, but to consciously show up for myself even while the pressure remained.

I started eating three meals a day again and actually sitting down at a table to eat.
I created space for transition.
I took breaks from people, places, and things that were draining me.

It was never about the number on the scale.

What bothered me most was realizing I had no surplus left — no cushion, no buffer, no reserves. And it showed.

Looking at these photos now reminds me of something important:

We may not always be able to leave a situation immediately…

but we can change how we orient ourselves within it.

Recovery is a choice.
Never give up on yourself.

03/04/2026

We will never feel at home with others until we are at home with ourselves.

Sometimes that means moving forward without the blessing of others.

Being a minority — especially as a Single Mom by Choice — has a feeling to it.

Many women assume that feeling means something is wrong.

It doesn’t.

Learning that the feeling can exist without needing to be fixed is peace.That’s freedom.

03/04/2026

DW LAW #12: A Guy is NOT a Dog or Puppy

4AM kitchen thoughts while cooking breakfast after chasing my rebellious kitten around the cul-de-sac at 10:15PM last night… 🤣

A guy is not a dog.A guy is not a puppy.This is not someone you’re picking up from the pound or the humane society.

Sometimes our brain tells us “I should have a guy.”But when you look deeper, that thought usually comes from two places:

1️⃣ To obtain something (kids, financial relief, help with life)2️⃣ To relieve pain (loneliness, stress, exhaustion, even… getting a kitten out of a tree)

But a human being isn’t a tool for relief.

A partner brings an entire life with them.Responsibilities. Emotions. Needs. Seasons where they give more. Seasons where they need more.

If the only reason you want someone is because you think they will fix something in your life… that foundation won’t hold.

People aren’t solutions.They’re entire human beings.

✨ Done Waiting means building your life first — and only sharing it with someone who is building theirs too.

03/03/2026

DW Law 9: Thou Shalt Not Abandon Thyself

Today after dance, Summer got in the car and sat quietly.

Then she said, “I don’t belong here.”

For a second I thought she meant my car. 🤣
But no.

She was talking about dance.

The cliques.
The popular girls.
Who gets attention.
Who stands together.

She’s 10 and already noticing group dynamics.

And I realized this wasn’t really about belonging.

It was about the temptation to abandon yourself just to fit in.

I told her:

Groups are always changing.
One day you’re in.
One day you’re out.

But who you are? That stays.

When we got home, I picked flowers from outside, wrote her a note, gave her a long hug and said, “You belong here. With us.”

Because this is what I want her to understand early:

You never trade your identity for access.
You never shrink to be chosen.
You never abandon yourself to feel included.

Belonging starts at home.
Confidence starts within.

And when you know who you are, you can stand anywhere — front row or back.

03/02/2026

✨ DW Law: Thou Shalt Not Doubt Thine Own Power. ✨

There was no partner in that room.

No one to steady me.

No one to carry it.

Just me.

IV in my arm.
Allowing the pain.
Clear. Focused. Certain.

People assume power looks loud.

It doesn’t.

Sometimes it looks like choosing the hard thing — alone — and never questioning whether you can handle it.

I did not doubt myself.

Not then.
Not now.

And I never will again.

03/01/2026

As many of you know, I’m in a transition phase of my life.

Midwest relocation — Summer 2026.
Horse ownership — once I’m settled in.

I found this old video of me riding a beautiful paint horse… and I couldn’t stop watching it.

Look at that smile.

That’s not forced.
That’s not survival mode.
That’s alignment.

Relocating isn’t as simple as “find somewhere to live.”
Switching income sources isn’t just “apply and go.”
Building a new life from the ground up takes planning, restraint, sacrifice, and patience.

And if I’m honest?
Sometimes the work feels one-sided.
Like I’m pushing a mountain alone.

But this video reminded me of something powerful:

The version of me who feels that free already exists.

She’s not a fantasy.
She’s not delusional.
She’s not “someday.”

She’s inevitable.

Great things aren’t ahead of me by accident.
They’re ahead of me because I’m willing to do the hard, boring, unglamorous work now.

✨ DW Law #1: Thou Shalt Not Wait.
You move toward the life you want — even when the path isn’t fully paved yet.

Kansas.
A house.
A horse.
Peace.

It’s coming.

03/01/2026

Not grieving the thing.
Grieving the version of me that existed inside it.