10/24/2026
Our barn is full. We’ve got horses in every available stall and pen right now. It’s a good problem to have for a self-employed horse trainer and her team. We are busy - but we can’t be so busy we miss the most important point of our work, which is to help horses and people understand each other.
Horses can’t learn when they’re worried, overly amped up, or distracted. People can’t, either.
If we want to make progress, we need to show up and work hard, while also slowing down and taking time to listen. We need to find the delicate balance between getting things done and not being in a hurry. We need to keep things moving along without raising our stress levels, or those of our horses, into the red zone. Working with horses requires energy, but a quiet, low-key kind of energy. We need to have a plan and a to-do list, but we can’t get carried away.
Horses can tell the difference between a clear sense of purpose and frantic busyness. They mirror our tensions and apprehensions, but also our calm, unhurried emotional states.
How do we keep the energy at the barn from becoming counterproductive?
We try to keep conversations honest, but also polite and sincere - between horses and people, and between people and other people. I try to keep frustration out of my voice. I try to move purposefully, but slowly. Of course, I’m not perfect. Neither are my students, or my employees. We get discouraged, or frustrated with ourselves. Here are a couple of strategies I use as a reset button when I feel that happening:
I use our adobe gateway as a reminder to be present. Every time I walk into the courtyard, I try to breathe, pause, and slow down. I try to leave my grievances and frustrations outside the gate. The barn is no place for loud voices, for negative emotions, for tense movement.
And finally, all of us at the barn use the barn cat as a reminder to breathe and slow down. Sylvester chills on his chair most of the day, every day - and he always appreciates a belly rub, or a treat. It’s a win-win situation.
Here’s the interesting thing: When I slow down, breathe, and feel present, I actually get more done. The horses learn more. My students enjoy their lessons. And, as an added benefit, I experience flashes of gratitude - for the work I get to do, for our barn community, for the horses. How do you keep the balance between getting things done and slowing down enough to do them well?