Mystic Intimacy

02/09/2026

"I can't go to the pool with these belly rolls.", she said pinching her stomach together, clearly frustrated with it.

I was about 8 when I heard that from my close friend who was around 10/11.

We were taking a bath together, and I was telling her how excited I was to go to the pool. I loved frolicking in the water as a child, and I could not for the life of me understand what her belly rolls had to do with playing in the pool. 🤨

This memory always strikes me as incredibly powerful because it depicts a very distinct line between my friend who had internalized the male gaze, and little girl me who hadn't yet learned to do so.

Fast forward to only a couple of years later, and I had learned to suck in my belly AT ALL TIMES.

This habit would continue well into my twenties and the amount of conscious effort it took to unlearn that behavior is something that will forever make me want to scream. 🤬

I am sharing this to shed light on the fact that patriarchy conditions girls form a very young age that their bodies must be fit for the consumption of the male gaze.

Most girls lose all semblance of sovereignty and true care for their bodies as they they subconsciously internalize the idea that they exist ONLY IN RELATION to being "sexy" for men.

Instead of developing what should be an embodied connection to their erotic energy and its vast properties of wisdom, vitality and power, what gets developed instead, is a conditioned response to outsource their value through male approval and consumption.

This distorts not only their relationship to their own pleasure and s.exuality, but also their sense of value, confidence and place in the world as a woman.

As they get older little girls become women who feel:

👉disconnected from their female bodies

👉reluctant to name their needs and boundaries during intimacy

👉confused about what their desires even are

👉apologetic or "pushing through" their cycle

👉ashamed of their female body (especially v***a, breasts and of course the fu***ng belly rolls)

✨But here's the thing I want you to remember love.

Patriarchy in its infinite brutalization of the female psyche, cannot truly undo what is REAL.

And what is real is that:

❤️‍🔥your female body is a wonder

❤️‍🔥your pleasure is medicine

❤️‍🔥your confidence has the power to change not only your experience in bed, but your overall life and yes the actual world.

But to uncover and access that truth deep within our bones we need permission, support, guidance and community.

And thats why the Self Intimacy Wh♡re offers exists.

As a safe space to remember your pleasure is YOUR OWN FIRST, before it's shared with anyone else.

✨The waitlist is open.
🌹 We start in March . .

02/06/2026

If you are realizing you haven’t prioritized your own or**sm (especially in a hetero relationship), I want to invite you to be so gentle with yourself. 🥹

That way, instead of self-shaming or blaming, you can:

🤨Become aware of what patriarchal beliefs you have internalized that make you believe your pleasure is not as important as your male partner’s.

🥰Softly begin replacing them with beliefs that help you feel more confident in expressing and receiving the pleasure and devotion you DESERVE.

🤗Incorporate somatic practices (because all of this lives in your body), that help you FEEL more embodied in your consent, pleasure and boundaries.

All of this and more is what we will be exploring together in the Self Intimacy Wh♥︎re delicious monthly container.

The doors are not open yet, but if you’re curious, you can drop a ❤️‍🔥 to be added to the waitlist. 😘

And if you have private questions my DM is open.

02/05/2026

We are done with all of that 😘

02/04/2026

02/04/2026

Once you realize that thinking “you need too much” to or**sm as a woman is actually internalized patriarchal BS, you can begin to redefine your relationship to intimacy from feeling like an accessory to his pleasure to putting your experience at the CENTER.

And though the reframe itself can be immensely powerful, in order for it to land solidly in your body, it often needs support, permission, safety and corrective experiences to do so. ❤️

🌱 I’m curious, if you were to receive support around this, which of these do you imagine would feel most helpful in helping you reclaim your pleasure as a right and not a “maybe”?

🌹Female pleasure education so I understand my body more.
🫶Supportive Community to encourage my intimacy journey.
🔥Mentorship to build more confidence in asking for what I want.

02/04/2026

Men being superior to women is patriarchy’s biggest Myth.

02/04/2026

Intimate performance is the default state for a lot of women because we are brought up in a patriarchal culture that centers male pleasure, approval and consumption.

😵‍💫Mentally that can look like thinking that you require too much to cm and subconsciously accepting the fact that your own experience revolves around the axis of his c.ock.

🥺Emotionally that can feel like disconnection, sadness and perhaps resentment you're not receiving the kind of pleasure and attention that feels caring and devotional.

🤐Somatically that can feel like constriction in the throat or a tightening (bracing) of the whole body because you are actually not in full consent, and are instead just going through the motions.

Curious in which of these 3 dimensions you notice signs of performance the most?

12/04/2025

If there’s one thing I learned from working with women in the intimacy field it’s this:

Shame grows in isolation and heals in community .

We are taught from a tender age that our pleasure and bodies are are not our own, but there to be vilified or commodified for male consumption, and when we internalize these messages (because how can we not?) it can looks like this:

👉not speaking your desires, boundaries or needs in bed

👉being afraid to you want “too much” or take “too long” to cum.

👉Being uncomfortable with your yoni being adored

👉having a hard time spending time with your own body or self pleasure.

And though the patriarchal conditioning has been relentlessly poisoning our female psyche for millennia with the messaging that our pleasure is shameful, the truth of our erotic energy being medicine runs much deeper.

And by bringing the conversations in safe communities with other women, we can begin to see that we are not alone in our experience.

And perhaps start cultivating the courage and permission to redefine our relationship to our sensuality from one steeped in shame and objectification, to one that is free, embodied and unapologetic.

🌹So tell me love, do you have any women in your life you can talk to about these things?

04/17/2024

What led me to do pleasure work with women? 🤭

Well first and foremost I would say it has been a natural affinity for women’s arts, empowerment and pleasure.

Even as a child I have always been extremely sensitive to the mistreatment of women, and have always questioned it and rebelled against it… I guess you could say I was born a feminist 😜

Aside from this strong internal call, the biggest ignitor behind my work was my initiation into motherhood.

My pregnancy and birth experience served as huge MIRRORS that showed me how disconnected I was from my power, wisdom and pleasure as a woman due to being raised in a patriarchal culture.

The motherhood initiation catapulted me into the glaring awareness of now little I knew about my own body and how little support there was for education and healing from birthing. 🥺

Later I realized how much shame I had been holding around my sexuality and how much of my self worth was tied up in performing for the male gaze. It went deeeeeeeep.

As I began my journey of reclaiming my erotic sovereignty, I realized just how impactful coming home to my body really was.

It felt like I found a long lost lover…like touching pieces of myself I had long forgotten about. 🌹💦🌹

By reconnecting with my feminine sensuality I didn’t just find more capacity for pleasure, but also more capacity to ask for my needs and relax into receiving the pleasure and intimacy I craved.

Fast forward to today and I can say I haven’t faked an or**sm in many years 😉, though once in a while the urge to do so has come up (like I said performance for the male gaze does indeed run deep).

I know from experience how deep it runs and how much this internalized shame can affect our ability to ask for what we want and relax in receiving pleasure.

That’s why I loooove guiding women in a safe and supportive way towards softening the edges of shame, so they can feel more at home in their body, more alive sensually and more relaxed and unapologetic in their intimacy with others.

The Shameless Woman is my 1:1 mentorship program where I offer the deepest level of support for those seeking to embark on a journey or rediscovering their feminine sensuality and learning how to deepen pleasure and intimacy with others. 💦🌹💦

💋It is a 6 month impactful container that you can relax in, because there are no intense boot camp vibes here…only attuned support and juicy somatic guidance.

💋I am welcoming a couple more women who feel called at this most perfect time of fertile spring.

💋If you want to learn more shoot me a DM and let’s chat with zero pressure.