09/02/2026
~ Training Highlight of the Week
This week's highlight came from training Ippon Seoi Nage.
This throw takes uke over one of the highest points of tori's body, and when you're the person being thrown, it can be intimidating. It's a long way down.
After demonstrating the technique, I could immediately see the fear in everyone's eyes. Once everyone started trying it themselves, that fear began turning into anxiety and hesitation. So we dialed everything back.
Instead of immediately performing the full throw, everyone began from a knee, bringing uke much closer to the ground. Once that became comfortable, we gradually increased the height. Little by little, everyone became more confident. As the evening progressed, the training became smoother, the throws became better, and there was a wonderful synergy developing between everyone on the mat.
There was an important lesson hidden inside that progression: anxiety has an incredible ability to construct stories about what might happen. We imagine the fall, we imagine getting hurt, we question our ukemi, we worry about hurting our training partner, and we remember previous injuries or failures. Before anything has actually happened, the mind has already constructed an entire possible future, and our body begins responding to it as though it were already real.
The interesting thing is that one of the best ways to challenge those stories is through experience. You begin closer to the ground, you take the fall, and you're okay. You go a little higher, you take the fall again, and you're still okay. Eventually, experience begins replacing assumption. You discover that your ukemi works, that your training partner can control the throw, and that you can safely throw someone else. Most importantly, you begin discovering that you are more capable than the version of yourself that existed only in your imagination.
This is why competence is the road to confidence.
Confidence isn't just telling yourself, "I can do this." Genuine confidence is being able to say, "I've done this before, I've trained for this, and I know what I'm capable of." That confidence is earned through experience.
It's incredible that something as seemingly simple as practicing Ippon Seoi Nage, on a cushioned mat no less, can expose so much about how we perceive ourselves. But that is part of the beauty of martial arts training. The technique becomes a vehicle through which we discover our fears, assumptions, strengths, weaknesses, and capabilities.
Every time we train, we gain experience. Experience develops skill, skill develops competence, and competence gives us a genuine reason to become confident in ourselves. Suddenly, the thing that once seemed terrifying becomes something we simply know how to do.
Then we find the next challenge.
Keep challenging yourselves and each other. Keep building competence, keep moving forward, and don't spend too much time looking backward.
Competence is the road to confidence.