06/16/2026
If you’re exhausted from carrying everyone else’s feelings, managing every outcome, and mentally rehearsing conversations that haven’t happened yet... this one’s for you. 😂🌪️
For a long time, I thought control meant I was being responsible.
Prepared.
Helpful.
Considerate.
What I’m realizing is that many of my controlling tendencies were actually fear wearing a very convincing disguise.
Fear of conflict.
Fear of disappointment.
Fear of making the wrong choice.
Fear of being blamed.
So I would overthink.
People-please.
Manage.
Fix.
Anticipate.
Not because I wanted power.
Because I wanted safety.
The challenge is that control rarely creates the safety we’re looking for.
It usually creates tension.
In our bodies.
In our relationships.
In our minds.
Real safety doesn’t come from controlling every outcome.
It comes from trusting ourselves enough to meet whatever arrives.
And for me, that’s been one of the biggest lessons of this season.
Not gripping tighter.
Softening.
Trusting.
And noticing when fear has quietly taken the wheel.
So I’m curious...
What’s your favorite disguise for control?
Overthinking? People-pleasing? Fixing? Planning every possible outcome?
Drop yours below and let’s normalize being beautifully human. 🤍🌿