Leslie Ellen Mathews JD, MSW

Leslie Ellen Mathews JD, MSW Serving women ready to stop surviving love and start feeling safe in it. Relationship Clarity | Divorce Healing
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Divorce can unravel everything—but it can also remake you. With both a JD and MSW, I guide women through the emotional, logistical, and legal overwhelm of divorce. Through The LooM Life, I offer strategy, support, and soul as you untangle what was and reweave what’s next.
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"I'm not very tech-savvy" — I hear this from therapists and coaches literally all the time.And honestly? If tech was the...
06/20/2026

"I'm not very tech-savvy" — I hear this from therapists and coaches literally all the time.

And honestly? If tech was the deciding factor I never would've started pulling threads. Ever.

Press Record breaks everything down step by step, and not just the how but the why behind it. One thing to focus on per week so it never turns into a whole overwhelming situation. And when you hit those "wait I'm completely stuck" moments, because you will, there are live sessions and a whole community of therapists and coaches going through the exact same thing who actually get it without you having to explain yourself.

Starting a podcast for therapists doesn't have to mean drowning in tech decisions. That's kind of the whole point of doing this together.

Okay, enrollment closes June 23 and there are only 3 seats left before I close registration for good. if you grab one, use the code PRESS50 at checkout for $50 off.

👇 Comment VOICE below and I'll send you everything you need to know. Still got questions? Leave them in the comments or just DM me directly, I'm happy to help figure out if this is the right fit for you.

06/20/2026

Generic dating advice will fail most of the time.

Mainstream dating coaches love to tell you to "just put yourself out there," "know your worth," or "spot the red flags on day one."

But they never mention how impossible that is when your body is still running on old relational programming.

If your childhood or past relationships were defined by chaos, inconsistency, or emotional abandonment, your biological baseline is completely skewed.

To an activated system, a genuinely stable, secure partner doesn't feel like a green flag. It feels like an existential threat. Your body misinterprets the peace as "lack of chemistry" or acute boredom, and your brain instantly manufactures reasons to run away.

Meanwhile, the familiar whiplash of someone who is hot and cold feels like home. Your system mistakes the high anxiety for "passion" and the frantic pursuit for "love."

No amount of mindset shifts or dating rules will work until you show your body how to safely tolerate peace.

Stop punishing yourself for choosing the wrong patterns or running from the right ones. Rebuild the safety inside your own skin first, and who you are attracted to will naturally change. 🤍

Have you ever run away from a good partner because it felt too good to be true? Let’s talk in the comments.

06/19/2026

Why does the same quality get celebrated in one person and questioned in another?

One moment from my conversation with Stefanie O'Connell really stayed with me.

Take the word ambitious.

When we hear that a man is ambitious, we often think:
He's driven.
He's a leader.
He knows what he wants.

When we hear that a woman is ambitious, the reaction can be very different.

Is she difficult?
Is she too focused on herself?
Is she really a team player?

The word didn't change.

The person didn't change.

Only the expectation did.

These are the kinds of unconscious beliefs that shape workplaces, relationships, opportunities, and the stories we tell ourselves about who we're allowed to be.

It's a fascinating conversation about identity, power, and what happens when we start questioning assumptions we've accepted without realizing it. 📖

If you haven't listened yet, the episode is available now on YouTube and wherever you get your podcasts. 🤍

Click the link to watch the full episode.

Podcast:
https://www.pullingthreadspodcast.com/

YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/

06/19/2026

The thing I kept telling myself before I started my podcast was "who am i to do this?"

And it wasn't because I had nothing to say. Honestly, I had too much. But there's something about the permanence of putting your voice out there. the public-ness of it. a session feels different because you're protected by the role. a podcast just asks you to show up as a person with a perspective.

That's scarier than it sounds for most of us.

I started pulling threads in January 2025 anyway. and what i found was that people who became my most aligned clients found me through the podcast. They already felt like they knew me before we ever spoke. That changed everything about how I thought about visibility and growing a therapy or coaching practice online.

The Press Record is really built around that experience. Therapists and coaches overthink being seen in a specific way, and we do better when we're not figuring it out alone. That's the whole point of the cohort.

Enrollment's open right now. cohort kicks off June 23. and if that "who am i to do this" voice is loud for you right now... that's kind of the sign.

👇 Comment VOICE below and i'll get you the details. Questions? drop them in the comments or just DM me, i'm happy to chat through whether this is a good fit for you.

06/19/2026

I’m not saying I’m a bad influence… but if you hang out with me for more than 10 minutes, we will end up looking at your chronic people-pleasing, your hyper-independence, and why you keep picking partners who feel like a project.

The truth is, so many of the things we label as "just who I am" are actually just survival strategies our nervous systems memorized a long time ago.

That habit of replaying conversations on a loop? Not just "overthinking." It’s hyper-vigilance.

That feeling that a calm relationship is "boring"? Not just a preference for high chemistry. It’s a dopamine withdrawal loop.

That tendency to swallow your boundaries to keep the peace? Not just "being nice." It’s a trauma response designed to keep you safe from conflict.

These are just patterns. And once you see the blueprint of why your body relies on them, you can finally start to change them.

Ready to look under the hood? I created a free, 2-minute assessment called "Why Can't I Let Go?" It’s exactly 10 questions long, takes less than 180 seconds, and gives you instant, personalized results about your specific relationship patterns and bonds.

Tap the link in my bio to take the free quiz right now and let's start untangling the loops together.

06/18/2026

What happens when a conversation gets redirected away from the actual issue?

One thing Stefanie O'Connell discusses in this episode is how often conversations about women's experiences are reframed in ways that miss the bigger picture.

Instead of asking why inequities continue to exist, the focus shifts somewhere else entirely.

What I appreciated about this conversation is that it goes back to the data.

Not assumptions.
Not opinions.
Not headlines.

The research helps us look more clearly at who holds power, how systems are maintained, and why understanding those dynamics matters for all of us. 📖

These are not always comfortable conversations.

They're important conversations.

And I think awareness is where meaningful change begins. 🤍

If you haven't listened yet, the episode is available now on YouTube and wherever you get your podcasts.

Click the link to watch the full episode.

Podcast:
https://www.pullingthreadspodcast.com/

YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/

When we talk about trauma bonds, the internet usually paints a picture of extreme, overt abuse. But the reality happenin...
06/18/2026

When we talk about trauma bonds, the internet usually paints a picture of extreme, overt abuse. But the reality happening in most relationships right now is much more subtle and much more confusing.

A trauma bond can form in any dynamic where affection and pain come in unpredictable cycles.

It’s the constant whiplash of warmth followed by sudden withdrawal. Connection followed by absolute coldness. Intimacy followed by weeks of punishing silence.

Your brain completely misinterprets that drop in cortisol as profound love. And once that pathway is wired, your system will do almost anything to get back to that feeling of relief, even if it means staying in a place that is breaking you down.

If you are trapped in this loop, please hear me: you are not foolish.

Healing this isn't about "just choosing yourself" or waiting for a sudden mindset change. It requires clinical, somatic work to show your nervous system that it is safe to finally let go. You don't have to figure out how to break the cycle alone.

If your body is ready to break free from the bond, the Trauma Bond Recovery Bundle is officially live in The LooM Library. Tap the link in my bio to get immediate access to the workbook, somatic audios, and guided tools today.

06/17/2026

The Press Record is open.

6 weeks, a live cohort, and honestly just... a group of therapists and coaches who get exactly why this has felt so hard to start.

Here's what we cover:

week 1 — figuring out your purpose, voice, and format without going down a rabbit hole

week 2 — showing up on camera or audio in a way that actually feels like you

week 3 — setup that's doable, not overwhelming

week 4 — recording and editing your first real episode

week 5 — building a workflow that fits your life and doesn't burn you out

week 6 — going live on apple podcasts, spotify, and youtube

PLUS a bonus week 7 for loose ends, final questions, and honestly just showing off what you built.

If you've been thinking about how to start a podcast as a therapist or coach, this is the most supported way to actually do it. small group, one focus per week, no tech spirals.

Cohort starts June 23. enrollment closes June 23 and spots are limited because I keep it small on purpose.

👇 Comment VOICE below and I'll send you the details. Got questions? drop them in the comments or DM me directly. I'm happy to help you figure out if this is the right fit.

06/17/2026

Have you ever wondered why speaking up feels so much riskier for some people than others?

One of the most eye-opening parts of my conversation with Stefanie O'Connell was learning that the issue often isn't whether women ask for more.

Many do.

The research shows that women are often more likely to face negative reactions when they advocate for themselves, negotiate, or pursue leadership opportunities.

Not because they're less capable.

Not because they're less prepared.

Because of the assumptions and biases that still shape how ambition is perceived.

It's a conversation that invites us to look beyond individual confidence and examine the systems, stories, and expectations that influence all of us. 📖

If you haven't listened yet, the episode is available now on YouTube and wherever you get your podcasts. 🤍

Click the link to watch the full episode.

Podcast:
https://www.pullingthreadspodcast.com/

YouTube:
https://www.youtube.com/

06/17/2026

Following your heart when your nervous system is completely dysregulated is how you end up back in the exact loops that broke you in the first place.

The moment I stopped letting my unfiltered, panicked emotions drive my life and started prioritizing actual physiological regulation was the moment the entire script flipped. When you teach your body how to drop out of fight-or-flight and access true, somatic safety, the decisions you make change completely.

You stop choosing people out of a desperate need to survive the night, and you start choosing people who are safe enough to build a life with. 🤍

Follow along for daily, clinical tools to help you ground your body and reclaim your decisions.

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