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Ellen Melon: Sex & Relationship Coach

Relationship Coach and Un-Educator: Reclaim your power, authenticity, and find the courage to ask for what you want.

Podcast: To Hump A Pillow with Ellen Melon™ — “The S*x-Ed Curriculum You Never Had.”

12/14/2023

Before dusk with Monty. I love walking in this woods with this BeeBoop before sunset.

11/10/2023

New episode coming Nov 15th! 🫶🏼

10/21/2023

Life got busy in September of 2022. My coaching practice quieted down, my sales job started clicking 🧠 and picked up, I was pregnant, I was exhausted, I was beginning to buy a house and quite frankly I wanted to be private about most of the new life I was navigating.

Its been one year since my last episode— I knew I’d be back I just didn’t know in what capacity.

I have returned to my favorite platform…speaking quietly into the headphones or car speakers of listeners on the podcast

This season on To Hump a Pillow, I invite my fiance Mike to the podcast in a 7-Episode Relationship Series to discuss challenging conversations that occur in couple-hood. We'll deep-dive into 7 deliciously uncomfortable topics:

1. How to talk about envious and jealous feelings
2. How to talk about money and finances
3. S€x life - how it's changed over our relationship and how to ask for what you need
4. On taking things too personally
5. Maintaining individualism and ensuring alone time
6. Day to day compromising
7. Coparenting in a blended family

Tune in wherever you get your podcasts.

08/01/2023

It was almost a year ago Mike found out we were pregnant 🤰🏼. Not planned. Not covid. Not mononucleosis. Even though it felt like it. July 28th we took those pregnancy tests and they were positive and I couldn’t believe my eyes.

I remember feeling other worldly level tired towards the end of July, achey joints during my workouts, and then I missed my period so Mike suggested we take a pregnancy test.

I remember thinking, no way could I be pregnant, I’ve never been pregnant, I don’t even know if I can get pregnant.

In the weeks leading up to this point, looking back, I knew in my body and soul I wanted to make babies with this man, and today we have a 4 month old boy.

There’s been a lot of joy and excitement in our relationship but there’s also been steep learning curves… the kinds of tough things that come with getting pregnant for months after you know each other, buying a house and talking about money, bringing a baby end of the world and navigating parenting styles... then there’s navigating $3x after having a vaginal birth.

Mike and I often talk about bringing some hard conversations to the podcast platform. Sharing how we communicate through really rough relationship topics. I’m wondering if listeners of would be interested in hearing Mike and I chat about this stuff in short episodes? Comment below or DM me with specific topics or interests.

05/02/2023

1 month into motherhood and I’ll tell you what, the title “Mom” nor “Mother” is not something I identify with yet.

I think to myself, “I’m a mom?” “I’m Harvey’s mom?” “How could this be?”
I still feel like an “Ellen with a child.” 😂
I’m sure the title will find its place within me, it just takes time.

Here are a couple other things I’ve noticed over the last 30 days as Harvey and I get to know each other in this new relationship…

Pitocin is hard on the body and swelling takes 2 weeks to go down. My body is starting to feel more normal now.

Eating meals AND timing insulin has been a steep learning curve — I’m always hungry, sometimes nauseous and most of my meals are chicken soup or popcorn. Amen to Mike for doing most of the cooking and to Emily, my sister in law, for making us freezer meals that saved my life in those first 2 weeks.

Pumping, storing milk, using bottles, and washing all these tiny pieces of plastic drives me freaken nuts. Also, my b***s are in my way all the time — I miss the days of no bra in a loose t-shirt. For now, I require these things tight to my body. 😂

I was experiencing this anxiousness around bedtime — the unknown of what night will bring that might take away valuable sleep, but it got better once I stopped getting tied to certain outcomes.

He’s not just mine — I have to share Harvey with others which can be hard when I see someone holding him “incorrectly” or doing it ‘their way.’ That’s just good-old-fashion control sneaking in. 😉

Underslept adults in a relationship are bad for the relationship. When Mike and I bicker at each other, I remind both us that we are severely tired and that’s probably what is underneath all this. And that it won’t be forever.

On days when my blood sugar is high or low, I’m underslept, and Harvey is so fussy, and all I want to do is sleep or shower or p**p or go outside and get some air or get my effin thank-you-notes done, it feels like I’m trapped and alone. Then I realize I can call a friend who knows exactly how I feel (thank you ladies) and that I have to remember to adjust my own expectations of what will get done in a day, because it ain’t the anymore.

05/01/2023

Pillow talks with Mike — One of my most favorite things in the world. And so valuable to the longevity of our relationship.

For whatever reason, the privacy and softness of lying down in bed with someone you trust and feel safe with has the potential to open doors to the greatest intimacy and vulnerability you will ever know.  This is true for me for most of my past relationships and certainly my female friendships.

Mike and I have known each other a little over a year now. We’ve had many conversation that look like this in bed. Most of them begin with discomfort or fear and end up teary eyed and relived. All of them are exquisitely tender and compassionate.

This photo was taken March 29th — a couple days before I was to be induced. We were talking about the arrival of our son what new changes that might bring…

Our sleeping schedule, as thus our mood, our short-fuses with one another
Our s*x life, my body and how it feel and function
Our freedom, the ability to go on whim where ever we want to go
Our integrating our son with their big brother and sister and dog
Then of course the labor piece — fears around what could go wrong, the courage to advocate for myself at the hospital and trusting that everything will workout

I told him I want to take a photo of us, capture this moment, days before our life changes forever.

God bless pillow talk.

01/24/2023

I have been a person interested in the inner experience of others my whole life. I’ve often theorized why I am this way…

I think somewhere between…

having emotionally immature parents (NOTE: read books on Adults with Emotional Immaturity if you struggle with finding healthy relationships), which put me on high alert towards everyone’s moods and energy — caretaker and people pleaser roles

childhood story telling of the mind that went, “there’s something wrong with me” which attracted me to other people with similar narratives — "you are now my problem and I have to fix you, even though you never asked for this and have no idea of my intent to fix you"

and pure curiosity about human psychology, behavior, emotions, and feelings — help me understand you

…created a girl who cares deeply for receiving the intimate, suffering, vulnerable dark and light parts of the soul, especially from the people closest to me who are willing to show me.

At the end of the day, it doesn’t really matter what made me this way.

Up until 2022, I continuously attracted romantic partners who were UNINTERESTED in my inner experience. Unwilling to inquire how I felt about life and things because they didn’t want to share their inner experience. Unknowing how to sit and listen without fixing or advise-giving because they had no training in sitting in discomfort.

What a gift is it INDEED to have attracted a man who meets me here. Who is not only interested in my inner experience, but totally invested. Mike and I have only each other 10 months. In that time, we’ve talked about what kind s3x life we wish to create, how we want to be loved, what kind of parents we want to be, bought a house and had really hard conversations about our money mindset, & what makes us jealous in the relationship, & what threatens the safety we feel towards each other.

We can both express ourselves in an elevated way without taking it personally. We both see and validate the tantrums of our inner children when they come bubbling up. We seem to the magic words for each other in times of worry and defeat.

I have never felt so safe & secure in a relationship. I am starting to understand the foundation of family.

12/23/2022

I love December 23rd.
The day before the 2-day event.
I don’t know what it is about 12/23 that I love every year…perhaps it’s a day that triggers my inner desire to slow down and savor the week to come. Like, “Okay ellen, time to slow down and be present during your favorite holiday season. No more need to hustle and grind. Everything will get done.”

It’s been a busy couple of weeks…lots of snow ❄️ dumping and removal at our new house, wearing clothes that are too tight (the worst!), figuring out how to exercise my dog when we have no fence in our yard and it’s -33 degrees. I’ve felt angry and frustrated a lot with the new growing pains of Home owner ship and my changing body but today feels lighter. Hopeful. Less worry.

I wish you all holiday season filled with gratitude and joy, with minimal pressure, worry, and stress. 🙏🏽❤️

10/26/2022

💙 Baby Boy 👦🏼 Block — Coming April 2023.

What a big year it’s been for me 🥳

After some really hard years of numbing, doing the work of sitting with my discomforts, grieving, making mistakes, getting really clear on what I want in my life and what I don’t, I have met the man of my dreams and created life with him.

I’ve tried to write this announcement many times — there’s so many things I want to share but I’m going to leave it at this:

Most days, in one hand I hold fear, worry, and anxiety.
In the other hand, I hold love, self-compassion, and self-trust.

All the work that I’ve done has helped guide me
to choose self-love over and over again, instead of hate or fear
to choose self-compassion, instead of judgment and criticism
to know that I trust myself deeply — that the only person who knows what’s best for me is ME

A common mantra I whisper to myself “I love you, Ellen I am listening.”

Now I catch myself whispering, “Baby boy, I love you, I am listening.”

Mike Block — I love you deeply because I love myself. I am so thrilled to arrive here with you and can’t wait to see what we create and manifest together.

Mom — you can go ahead and tell the world now 👵🏻😉

09/10/2022

One year ago on 9/2/22 I drove out to Lake Lilian, MN to see the last puppy for sale 🐶 in his liter and I came home with a Monty Nugget, Monty BeeBoop, Da BeeBooparilla, Montgomery Darling.

I had been working on getting a dog for months working up to this through Second Hand Hounds but every time I interviewed with a foster parent, they didn’t choose me. It wasn’t a process I wanted to continue with, so I began looking on Craigslist for puppies.

There was a breeder who specializes in Aussiliers (half King Charles cavalier and half mini Australian shepherd). As soon as I saw him it was a full body HELL YES. He was 4 months old at the time and his name was “Pickles”.

Many of you have owned dogs your whole life and know the magic and camaraderie of dogs. This was never something I had to privilege to know growing up. It was a firm NO from my parents and I often think what a disservice that choice was. Me and my siblings could have really used the unconditional love and playfulness of a dog in our house.

As soon as I got Monty, he required a ton of work and money. Many of you know this experience — late night potty breaks, accidents on the carpet (NO NOT THE CARPET!!!), training tricks, obedience, experimenting with walks, meeting other dogs, and dog parks. Then the cost of vet appointments, food, toys, etc.

I remember feeling such incredible joy watching him ricochet off the hills and trees and the dog park. He is such a happy dog and it seems to infect everyone around him.

The other things I notice is having more energetic dogs put you outside more and for me this put me both in nature and in running into other people with dogs. There’s been some really cool opportunities that have arose from just meeting other dog owners. And there’s also been a strengthened bond to my spirituality by being in nature more, especially this last winter. It’s so fun to be with him in the woods – he finds such interesting things and experiences.

I guess what I’m trying to say is Monty has been medicine for my inner child. He’s the emotional support and responsibility I never had as a kid and I’m so grateful for his spirit and personality… and cute cute mug.

09/07/2022

Up late editing episode 60 of — welcome back to Season 4!

#60. The trick to using dating apps - a real convo with my boyfriend Mike

It drops (tomorrow) Wednesday September 7th!

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