03/28/2021
This is not normally the hill I publicly stand on, but thanks to a few recent events, here we are.
IT IS NOT OKAY THAT THESE THINGS STILL HAPPEN.
All of these events have happened to me. All of these things happen to women that you know on a DAILY BASIS. And you know what’s messed up? The worst part is that I feel GRATEFUL that this is the extent of harassment I’ve experienced recently.
It makes me sick that these things still happen, that people still defend them.
Men: Say something. Don’t want to feel uncomfortable or ostracized by your buddies? How you think it feels to feel uncomfortable 99% of the time you’re in a public place? And if you need a little encouragement, pretend it’s your wife/sister/daughter they’re talking about.
It is not enough to simply say “but I’m not that guy.” You have to be an active part in shutting down “that guy.”
Women: Say something. Be brave for 2.5 seconds and tell your friend/coworker/acquaintance/family member that their words and actions are not okay.
And for f**k’s sake, stop using the phrase “boys will be boys.”
I have many wonderful men in my life, but they are not all men. Every time I leave my house for a run or to walk to work I carry some sort of self-defense mechanism with me. I never wear more than one ear bud. I’m constantly looking over my shoulder to check my surroundings. I always text/tell someone where I’m going and when I’ll be back. I’d love to live in a world where I didn’t feel like those things were necessary. 😡😤