06/16/2026
Watching this video of myself from 1996 was a trip, but also a reminder of all the experience and knowledge I have now, so here’s what I’d tell myself at 14:
1) Friends do matter, who you surround yourself with will either uplift you or just as easily tear you down. Surround yourself with good people: seek to be and be with kind hearts, open minds, generously helpful hands, and happily honest, but also ones who will help you to stay on the course, not be too superficial, and also want to work hard and do well.
2) The first heartbreak is the hardest, the rollercoaster of emotions, the frustration, the fear, anxiety, crushing defeat and aching heart is no exaggeration. Feel all the feels and enjoy the ups and downs of relationships but also remember that you are more than your relationship. And ps no person is worth more than a week’s worth of mourning.
3) Learn more while you are capable and young! I used to hate hearing old people tell me this, but now that I’ve reached that milestone I get why. Your young brain has so much more potential to retain and absorb and continuously learn and grow. Try the new hobby, join the team you are unsure about, do the thing that scares you or seems like a lot because you can! All those songs you know every single lyric to? The same brain that enables you to learn it all will also help you to learn other things if you put your mind to it!
4) Practice good communication skills both verbally and written, because it’s one of the single most important skills which will go with you wherever you go!
You might never need cosine or y=mx+b again but you’ll always need to write an email or talk to someone whether it be networking or inquiring about something intelligently.
5) You are way prettier, cuter, and even hotter than you think and it does you no good to be insecure and down on yourself, so stop comparing to others and start taking more photos of yourself, looking in the mirror and smiling at the reflection, and perhaps start to fake it til you make it by telling yourself how awesome and amazing you are everyday! Why? Because confidence goes a super long way and the quicker you gain some, the better off you’l