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12/14/2022

This time of year is overwhelming, stressful, depressing..

Stop, take a few deep breaths.

If you feel drained, relax, refresh

If you feel like you have lost hope. reach out call 988 for help

11/18/2022

11/18/2022

Winter isn't even officially here until the end of December it seems that it starts so much earlier with daylight decreasing by minuted per day and holiday stuff popping up long before the actually holiday.

This can lead to emotional over load. There are so many memories and feelings that swoop in. Taking over our thoughts. Our minds begin building up anxious events and conjuring up stories that may not even be true.

as the day light fades a bit more each day, darkness sends our life into dread. It is not easy to embrace the darker days, longer nights and less time to be with friends and families. This is a time of many reflections and learning to embrace what is often messy and
UnFun (yea I just made that word up) It is also a great time for growth, healing and manifesting the life you want and desire.

I've been absent from the page and even wanted to make it private to hide. Yes that is my go to way of thinking, if I hide, it isn't real and i don't have to deal with it. which we all know is a big ole cop out. So here I am about to get real, be vulnerable and as transparent as I can be. My feelings are that there are a whole lot of hurting people who have no where to turn, feel as if they are a burden and honestly feel that they are the only one going through something that so many can relate to. So.... get ready for for the yucky stuff. Because after, the good stuff grows from the mucky mud.

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01/15/2022

We are all trying to become better people every day. In doing this we have to take a look at how we respond to situations, why we respond the way we do, sometimes with a knee jerk reaction instead of compassion or love.

Healing is messy and sometimes we have to dig deep to figure out when and where it started and sometimes we don't have those answers because it happened long before our brains were able to process. So knowing doesn't have to be known. Its how we respond and learn to navigate the response.

You might find yourself in all of these responses, normally there will be one or two that really resonate the most and the others might come up under extreme duress or certain situations.

We also have the light and shadow sides of our responses.
We can learn to heal. Be more compassionate with our self and have a lot more empathy for others when we start to see that we all react. Those who haven't been taught to recognize their trauma response or strategy, will continue to use it out in the world. We can let that happen, because we have no control over others but when we recognize it in our self then we can see it is from fear they are responding and not from a love or self-compassionate place.

When we can then have empathy for them, compassion for our self then we can move through life in more comfort.

It takes time, it takes work, it takes being aware, It takes knowing the benefit we get when we don't follow the love pathway and instead let the fear control our thoughts and actions.

It's the Ying/Yang of life. the balance we need and desire. and when we are lopsided on the scales, we feel it in our body and our loved ones and friends feel it too.

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01/05/2022

When you get the opportunity to ask someone,
"How are you feeling?" "How are you doing?" "Are you ok?" "Is there something you need?"

Do it.
This is a little nudge from the universe to trust your gut, because if something feels off, then it most likely is. Or you know that the person is or has been going through something in their life.

Honestly many of us won't ask because we don't want to bring up something painful, we think it might be about us or we really just don't want to get all caught up in whatever it is. Those are all valid and real feelings. There are times when we know instinctively that we need to leave it alone.

Trust your gut when you feel something is "off". Maybe they just need someone to listen and know that they care. And asking reaffirms that someone is available.

One of my favorite books is "The Four Agreements". It is not always easy to ask for help or to reach out. Do the best you can. That is what all of us can do.

01/03/2022

I learned over the past 2 years that in order for me to be happy and have a fulfilled life, it's up to me to set healthy boundaries.
I've forgiven myself, that I allowed people to cross those boundaries over and over, before I know how to set and hold the line.

I've forgiven people who were in my life and didn't support my growth and higher purpose. Just because I have forgiven, doesn't mean we will hang out or that I will be a part of their life. I have moved on and closed that chapter. I wish you no ill will, my alignment and peace is more important to me now, rather than being a people pleaser and unhappy.

Healing doesn't happen overnight, it's a dance in life where you take one step forward and two steps back. It's a daily practice. There is no perfect way to do this, the point is to keep moving.

I'm free to have a clear mind and conscious, light heart and peace. In the new year you are also free to do the same. Make the choice to be happy, heal and thrive.

12/26/2021

the ending is just another new beginning. How we choose to see it is how well it will go.

Beginnings can be overwhelming. Remember to add in new things little by little, build up the habit on top of a good habit you already have. Start small, even micro steps. There is no rush, you have 52 weeks or more to make those changes. Trying to do it all in Jan will derail you and we don't want that.

So prioritize the most important to the least important. Plan your goals, find an accountability partner, journal about it, write it on your calendar.

Let's make 2022 the best year ever!

09/24/2021

DID YOU KNOW you can text 911 when you are unable to talk..........

Instructions on how to text 911 in an emergency are included below:

Enter the numbers “911” in the “To” field.
The first text message to 9-1-1 should be brief and contain the location of the emergency and type of help needed.
Push the “Send” button.
Be prepared to answer questions and follow instructions from the 9-1-1 call taker.
Text in simple words –do not use abbreviations.
Keep text messages brief and concise.

09/24/2021

https://www.scarymommy.com/domestic-violence-secret-hand-signal/ #:~:text=The%20%E2%80%9Csignal%20for%20help%E2%80%9D%20is%20a%20one-handed%20gesture,But%20first%2C%20the%20message%20needs%20to%20be%20spread.

A Canadian organization is spreading a secret hand signal women can use if they need help getting away from domestic violence at home.

09/23/2021

https://youtu.be/YsIUF12s49M You can download the pdf of the book about surviving abuse.. or donate an amount if you wish.

Gabby might be the catalyst to bring domestic abuse awareness for women and men. Oct is wear purple for Domestic abuse awareness month.