05/17/2025
Meet Emily and Lina. When these two came to me in the fall, Lina was a handful. She was hard to catch, didn’t stand well for her feet (or really stand in general), was nervous in the arena, and very buddy sour. Life away from the herd was extremely scary for this mule, and Emily felt like she needed some help.
When developing a training plan with my equine-owning students, I always give them a choice: do they want to stick with the traditional methods they’re familiar with, while incorporating positive reinforcement when we can; or use my preferred method of restarting with positive reinforcement. It’s a question that seems so daunting. The word ‘restarting’ is scary, with a lot of implications. For many, pressure and release has worked just fine, and most horse people are most familiar with it. Why bother with the change?
I was ecstatic when Emily said she’d give R+ training a shot. It was a slow process at first. Emily has poured her heart and soul into this mule, taking the time to listen to her and form a genuine relationship. She gives Lina a choice, respecting her when she says ‘no’, and greeting every ‘yes’ with patience and enthusiasm. It doesn’t matter if it’s been a day or a week, Lina is happy to greet her at the gate now, ready to learn. It’s such a beautiful transformation.
Here we are, so many months later. In their last lesson, Emily and Lina had their first solo ride. No tension. No bolting. No stress. Emily didn’t even have to touch her reins. Even though Lina probably has some not-so-pleasant associations with being ridden, as many equines do, she was calm and quiet, waiting for Emily’s signal.
I’m sure there were times when Emily thought they’d never get to this moment. Having our equine partner say no repeatedly can feel like a punch to the gut sometimes. Despite that, she endured. We reflected on the training we’ve done, filled in any holes or gaps where Lina needed some clarity, and they had a beautiful ride that left me teary eyed and snapping photos like a proud mom.
Their journey is far from done, but getting to the point where an equine friend greets being ridden with calm enthusiasm deserves to be celebrated.
Thank you for sticking with me and this once-unfamiliar training method, Emily! I’m so, so proud of you both. I can’t wait to see your relationship blossom even more.