05/14/2026
Husband first, Coach second For so long I didn't know how to encourage her in the right ways to get her to fall in love with the process like I did, but here are the rules that changed the ways I was able to support her! 1. I lead by example before I ever give advice. If I can't abide by my own rules, I don't have the right to enforce them onto her. 2. I encourage effort, not outcomes. Showing up is what counts. She's worked out every day in the new year and we celebrate our streak every day 3. I never talk down to her. I never want her to feel shame or embarrassment. I'm way more experienced than her and a silly question to be may be the difference in her understanding something really important. 4. I remind her how strong she already is. I hype her up and celebrate any win we can. The more we celebrate, the better we can keep moving towards progress! 5. I make training something we enjoy, not something she dreads. The spicy jokes are always my favorite part 6. I support her food choices without judgment. Food is fuel and as long as we raise our awareness we can have as much boba as we want 7. I help with meals, prep, and planning. Her fitness journey is our fitness journey. If I can make it easier for her to follow the plan, I will do everything in my power to do so. 8. I listen more than I speak. She doesn't need someone bossing her around and drilling her. I need to be aware of her and how she's feeling to encourage her in the right ways. 9. I protect her confidence, especially on hard days. She's going to have more hard days than me and that's okay. If that means I got to slow down and stay on her pace that's what it means to prioritize your partner. 10. I remember my role first- husband, partner, teammate. I am a coach to everyone here and on my program, but to her I'm her everything and I can't just be a coach.
