06/03/2025
When I was a fitness coach, I thought losing 20 pounds would fix her until it didn’t.
She came saying she wanted to lose 20 pounds.
But behind that number, something else was at play: she was burnt out, disconnected, exhausted in a way sleep couldn’t fix.
On the outside, she was high-functioning: leading meetings, hitting deadlines, everyone commending her “discipline.”
Inside, she was unraveling quietly. She said, “I don’t recognize myself anymore.
I’ve checked every box, but I feel invisible in my own life.”
Instead of handing her another diet plan, I helped her unlearn the habits that were suffocating her:
🛑 Skipping lunch because she had back-to-back calls, & surviving on the vending machine snacks by 4 p.m.
🛑 Cardio at 5 a.m. even when her body was begging for rest.
🛑 Treating rest like a reward to be earned & food like a punishment.
We slowed everything down so she could hear
herself again: sipping on her coffee without the
phone at 7 a.m., giving herself permission to just breathe.
She started moving with her body, not against it.
The real shift happened when she looked in the
mirror and said, “finally, I get to feel good now &
not after I lose the weight.”
That moment changed everything: from
controlling her body to coming home to it.
Yes, she lost the 20 pounds.
But what really transformed her life was what she gained:
Sleeping through the night again with less 3a.m. anxiety about.
Finding her voice in convos she used to
shrink from & speaking up without apologizing.
Stopped skipping meals because she was “too
busy” caring for everyone else.
Learning to say no without a dissertation
explanation and the biggest shocker of all,
refusing to shrink herself for others.
Going from disappearing in her own life to taking…
up space on purpose, unapologetically.
After our time together, she said, “I thought I wanted weight loss.
What I really needed was to feel like me again.”
🔥 Ready for your first step towards deep change?
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