02/13/2026
Something no one understands until they’re in it is the mental toll it takes on a parent when you’re gathering assessments about your child—and it’s all just negative information. I’m gutted.
This week, I collected assessments from teachers and therapists to help my son get his diagnosis so we can receive more support. We’re working to get him set up for kindergarten now so we’re not scrambling to catch up next year.
But here’s what happens: You send in the papers, and when they come back, it’s all negative. Everything your child struggles with. It’s honest, and it’s discouraging as a parent. You read all the things that make up maybe 5% of your child, and it’s so hard because you want to fight back and say, “But he’s also these great things too! Let’s not forget those parts of him!”
I had to write a reminder in my phone for when my brain would start spinning:
Their honesty isn’t a reflection of how they feel about your child—it’s a reflection of how they want to help you get the support your child needs. We are on the same team!
I’m not going to sugarcoat it or pretend this makes everything feel perfect again, because it doesn’t. But it has helped calm me down and remind me that we’re doing this so he doesn’t struggle later.
Some weeks are just about keeping your head above water—and that’s okay.
When things feel overwhelming, I’ve learned that the best thing I can do is simplify. Not to add more pressure or expect myself to do it all, but to focus on the basics that keep me grounded. Here’s what helps me stay afloat during the tough weeks:
1. Do one thing that makes me happy. Even if it’s just 5 minutes.
2. Take a 10-minute walk. Fresh air 🤝 movement
3. Eat a snack.
4. Drink a glass of water.
5. Get in the sun.
These aren’t grand gestures or life-changing habits—they’re small, manageable acts that help me survive the hard weeks. And honestly? That’s enough.
If you’re in a tough season too, I hope you’re being gentle with yourself. You don’t have to do it all. Just do what you can.
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