06/16/2026
This week, someone asked me what single mindset exercise changed everything for me.
How did I go from being 60 pounds overweight, deeply depressed, hiding my emotions, completely overworked, and drowning in stress... to owning a business that brings me so much joy, feeling stronger and healthier than ever at 37, raising two kids, supporting hundreds of women, and somehow still having the energy of a nine-year-old? 🤩
Honestly, it wasn't one thing.
It was realizing that I needed to build a rhythm.
As women, we thrive on rhythm. Our hormones thrive on rhythm. Our gut thrives on rhythm. Our nervous system thrives on rhythm. Science shows us that our bodies love consistency. When we eat at predictable times, sleep at predictable times, move our bodies consistently, and create routines our bodies can anticipate, things begin to regulate. Cortisol finds its rhythm. Digestion improves. Energy improves. Hunger cues become more predictable.
The problem was that when I looked at my own life, there was no rhythm.
There was only survival.
I was so stressed that I was living almost entirely in masculine energy. Go. Go. Go. Fix it. Solve it. Handle it. Push through it. Rest felt uncomfortable. Peace felt unfamiliar. And feminine flow? I didn't even know what that meant yet.
My eating habits were all over the place. My workouts were all over the place. One day I had energy, the next day I didn't. One day I was happy, the next day I wasn't. I would skip meals, overeat later, stay up too late, wake up exhausted, promise myself tomorrow would be different, and then repeat the same cycle all over again.
There was no consistency in how I cared for myself.
And because of that, my body never knew what was coming next. Looking back, I don't think she trusted me. She couldn't anticipate her needs being met because I wasn't meeting them consistently. She was constantly operating in stress, survival, fight-or-flight mode. And in that state, I was never going to create lasting change. Not because I wasn't trying hard enough, but because I was trying so hard to force change instead of creating an environment where change could naturally happen.
So I started creating rhythm.
Not overnight. Not perfectly. And definitely not without resistance.
I had tough conversations with my husband about what I needed, what I could realistically manage, and what kind of energy I wanted in our home. I had to set boundaries around my time, my energy, and the way I spoke to myself. And the truth is, I had to learn how to love myself and set boundaries with myself before I could comfortably set them with anyone else.
Then came the harder stuff.
I walked away from a high-paying, high-stress job because the life I said I wanted—a life filled with peace, joy, health, freedom, and presence—was completely out of alignment with the environment I was spending most of my time in.
And yes, there was pushback.
There were people who thought I was crazy. There were tears, arguments, uncomfortable conversations, and moments where I questioned everything. There were relationships that changed. There were habits I had to let go of. There were versions of myself I had to leave behind.
But somewhere in all of that discomfort, I realized something that changed my life forever.
I am worth the effort.
I am worth cooking a healthy meal for, even if I'm the only one eating it.
I am worth protecting my workout time.
I am worth investing in myself without waiting for a birthday, a promotion, or permission from someone else.
I am worth having uncomfortable conversations.
I am worth disappointing other people if it means staying true to myself.
And here's the one that I know a lot of women struggle with...
I am worth re-evaluating decisions I made years ago.
Whether that's a job, a friendship, a habit, a belief, a relationship, or anything else.
Not because you should leave.
Not because you should stay.
But because your happiness matters. Your alignment matters. The decisions that served you at 25 may not be the decisions that serve you at 45, 55, or 65.
You have permission to change.
You have permission to evolve.
You have permission to want something different.
You have permission to redesign your life if it means becoming the most authentic version of yourself on the other side.
Because that's exactly what I had to do.
And once I truly understood that I was worth the effort, everything started changing.
Not all at once.
But little by little.
Meal by meal.
Boundary by boundary.
Conversation by conversation.
Decision by decision.
Eventually, I realized that I could either tolerate the life I had or put in the effort to create one I actually wanted to wake up to every day. Both require energy. Both require intention.
And if you want a different life, you have to start creating a different rhythm.
That's one of the reasons I created the Daily Nutrition Rhythm Worksheet.
Not because food is magical.
But because learning how to create consistency around something as simple as eating taught me how to create consistency everywhere else.
If I had to answer the question, what mindset exercise changed my life?
It wasn't an exercise at all.
It was a realization.
A deep knowing.
A decision that I was worth the effort.
And once I knew that, I started acting like it until what once felt uncomfortable, selfish, and completely foreign became my reality.
And that changed everything. ❤️
– Amanda
