Well Balanced Horsemanship

06/06/2026

05/08/2026

I've had several request lately to hold this clinic again, so here it is for you!
Our Trail Safety & Self Defense Clinic
Clinic is limited to 10 riders, So don't wait too long to register!
After the clinic, feel free to hang out and work on our obstacles!
Register on our website.

05/01/2026

Life is great when you give your worries to God!
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04/15/2026

Come Join us at the West Volusia County Saddle Club Ranch Show on 4/19! Cowboy Church starts at 8:00 sharp!

🐴Join us at Lake Helen Equestrian Center on April 19 for Cowboy Church at 8:00 AM, then stay for the West Volusia Saddle Club Ranch Show! 🐎
Family-friendly, horses, good company, and a full day of ranch fun starting at 8:00 AM. For more information go to: https://wix.to/tlc4VXA

04/04/2026

We would like to invite all our friends to join us.
We would like to invite all our fiends to join us…..If you live too far…. Find another church, and make time for Christ in your life.

03/26/2026

03/16/2026

Respect for space.
When I talk about respect for space, I’m not trying to win an argument about dominance or prove I’m the “boss.” I’m talking about something far more practical: a horse cannot be the one making the decisions. Not because the horse is “bad,” and not because the horse is plotting against you—but because a thousand-pound animal making independent decisions in a human world is how people get hurt.

I’ve spent my life around horses, and I’ll tell you the truth as plainly as I can: a horse making the decisions is dangerous for the rider. It’s dangerous in the obvious ways—spooking, bolting, running over you—but it’s also dangerous in the subtle ways people excuse for years until something finally happens. The little decisions become bigger decisions. The small boundary becomes no boundary. Then one day the horse makes a decision at the wrong time, and it turns into a wreck.

So when I ask for a horse to respect my space, what I’m really doing is asking for one essential thing: let me be the leader. Not the bully. Not the dictator. The leader.

Because leadership is how the relationship works. Leadership is what makes the partnership safe. And safety is what allows both the rider and the horse to get what they want out of the relationship.

The Horse Doesn’t Get to Decide Where My Body Goes

Here’s the simplest way I can put it: if a horse can move my feet, that horse is already in charge.

A lot of people don’t realize that’s what’s happening. They call it “he’s just being friendly” or “she’s just a little pushy.” But in the horse’s world, movement equals control. If the horse crowds you and you step away, the horse just learned something. If the horse drags you to the gate and you go with him, he learned something. If the horse leans into you at the mounting block and you adjust to make it work, he learned something.

None of this is evil. It’s just horses being horses.

But if the horse is allowed to make those decisions on the ground, it becomes very likely that the horse will try to make decisions under saddle too—especially when the horse gets worried, excited, tired, frustrated, or distracted. And that’s when it gets dangerous.

So I don’t treat “respect for space” as a manners issue. I treat it as a leadership issue.

A Horse Making Decisions Looks Like This

Most folks think a horse “making decisions” is a big dramatic thing like bolting or bucking.

But the truth is, it starts long before that. It looks like:

stepping into you when you stop

pushing the shoulder into you when you lead

swinging the hip into you when you’re trying to move around them

walking past you instead of with you

drifting into your bubble while you saddle

crowding you at the mounting block

turning their head and leaving you mentally, even if their feet are still standing there

Those are all decisions. They’re small, but they’re real.

And here’s why they matter: a horse that believes it can decide where to put its body will eventually decide where to put its body when it counts. That might be into you, over you, away from you, or through you.

I’m not willing to gamble on that.

Leadership Isn’t About Being Mean—It’s About Taking Responsibility

This is where people get confused, because they hear “leader” and they picture somebody roughing a horse up to prove a point.

That’s not leadership. That’s insecurity.

Leadership is simple: I take responsibility for the decisions so the horse doesn’t have to.

A horse is always looking for someone to answer a question: “Where should I be? What should I do? Is this safe? Are we okay?” If I don’t answer those questions, the horse will. Not because the horse is disrespectful, but because the horse is wired to survive.

And the horse’s survival decisions don’t always match what keeps the rider safe.

A horse’s decision might be: “I’m leaving.”
A horse’s decision might be: “I’m running through this pressure.”
A horse’s decision might be: “I’m going back to the barn.”
A horse’s decision might be: “I’m crowding into you because I feel better close.”

All of those decisions make sense to a horse. None of them are what I want happening with my feet on the ground or my seat in the saddle.

So my job isn’t to punish the horse for being a horse. My job is to show the horse a better system:

You don’t have to make the decisions. I will. And if you follow my leadership, you’ll end up safer and more comfortable than you would on your own.

That’s what a partnership actually is.

Partnership Means Both Sides Get What They Want

A lot of people say they want a partnership, but what they really mean is they want the horse to cooperate while the horse is still in charge.

That’s not partnership. That’s negotiation.

Real partnership looks like this:

The rider gets safety, control, and reliability.

The horse gets clarity, fairness, and relief from having to guess.

That’s the deal.

When I’m consistent about space, what I’m really building is a horse that trusts leadership. Because a horse that trusts leadership will stop feeling like it has to manage everything.

And that changes everything under saddle.

A horse that is allowed to manage you on the ground often becomes a horse that tries to manage the ride: it chooses the speed, the direction, the distance from the gate, the amount of effort, the level of focus. It decides how much it wants to give. It decides when it wants to quit. It decides when it wants to argue.

That’s not a partnership. That’s a horse running the relationship.

A horse can’t run the relationship safely. The horse doesn’t have the same goals as you do. The horse doesn’t have the same understanding of risk. The horse doesn’t think like a human. And the horse should not have to.

“Respect for Space” Is Just the First Leadership Test

I like to keep it simple. Respect for space is the first place I check whether the horse accepts leadership.

If the horse won’t respect space, it’s usually not a training problem yet. It’s a leadership problem.

Because space is the easiest thing in the world to understand: “Don’t walk into me. Don’t push through me. Yield when I ask.”

If a horse can’t do that calmly and consistently, then I already know what I’m going to get later when the questions get harder.

And I’m not saying that to be dramatic. I’m saying it because I’ve watched the pattern a thousand times.

The horse that crowds on the ground becomes the horse that leans on the bridle.

The horse that drags you to the gate becomes the horse that sucks back to the barn.

The horse that won’t yield the shoulder becomes the horse that falls in on circles and ignores leg.

The horse that walks through you becomes the horse that walks through pressure.

It’s the same mindset—just different settings.

What It Looks Like When the Rider Is the Leader

When the rider is truly the leader, you can see it without anybody having to announce it.

It looks like:

The horse stays out of your space unless invited closer.

The horse matches your pace when you lead.

The horse yields the shoulder and hip when asked.

The horse stops when you stop and doesn’t step into you.

The horse waits at the mounting block instead of crawling into your lap.

The horse stays mentally with you, not scanning for its own plan.

And the horse doesn’t do those things because it’s afraid. It does them because it understands the system.

The horse understands: “If I follow this person, my life makes sense.”

That’s what leadership creates—a world that makes sense.

The Rider Being the Leader Doesn’t Mean the Horse Has No Opinion

This matters, because someone always hears “leader” and thinks it means the horse gets treated like a robot.

No.

A horse can have feelings. A horse can be unsure. A horse can be fresh. A horse can be opinionated.

But the horse doesn’t get to turn those feelings into decisions that put the rider at risk.

That’s the line.

I want the horse to be able to express itself within the relationship—without taking control of the relationship.

That’s why I correct space issues. Not because I hate the horse being close. But because I refuse to let closeness become control.

The Big Takeaway

If your horse is crowding you, pushing into you, leaning on you, or moving your feet around, I don’t want you to label your horse as “disrespectful” and get angry.

I want you to label it accurately:

Your horse is making decisions that you should be making.

And any time the horse is making those decisions, your risk goes up—on the ground and in the saddle.

So the goal isn’t dominance. The goal is leadership.

Leadership gives the rider what they want: safety, control, and progress.

Leadership gives the horse what it wants: clarity, fairness, and the comfort of not having to guess.

That’s how you build a partnership that works for both sides—because the rider leads, and the horse follows with confidence.

03/04/2026

Why No Helmet? This is my answer.
When somebody asks me why I don’t wear a helmet when I ride, I’m going to answer it honestly and with some context, because this subject gets turned into a simple “good vs bad” argument online, and it’s not that simple in the real world.

First, I’m not anti-helmet. Helmets are a good tool. If you wear one, I respect it. If your kids wear one, I’m glad. If you’ve had a wreck and you won’t ride without one again, that makes perfect sense to me. Head injuries are real, and helmets can absolutely reduce the damage in the right situation. So this isn’t me saying “helmets are dumb” or “helmets don’t work.” That’s not my position.

My position is this: I don’t treat safety like it’s one item of equipment. Safety is a whole system—awareness, preparation, how I read a horse, where I put my body, what I ask for, when I ask for it, and the decisions I make long before anything has a chance to go sideways. Most people see a short clip and think the entire conversation is “helmet or no helmet.” What they don’t see is the other 59 minutes of the ride, and the 30 years that came before it.

And here’s the part that matters and gets misunderstood: I’m fully aware I don’t have a helmet on, and that fact is part of my decision-making every single ride. It’s not something I “forget.” It’s something I account for. It’s one more variable in the risk equation, and it keeps me sharper. It affects what I do, how I do it, when I do it, and what I’m willing to risk on that particular day with that particular horse in that particular environment.

Because in my world—training horses day in and day out—my biggest “helmet” is judgment. Timing. Positioning. Not getting greedy. Not pushing a horse past what he can mentally handle today. Not escalating because my ego wants a win. Not taking unnecessary chances just because I “might get away with it.” The best wreck is the one you never set up in the first place.

I also know something about human nature, including my own: equipment changes behavior. It's called “risk compensation,” and you see it everywhere. When folks feel protected, they often take risks they wouldn’t take otherwise. They drive a little faster, they get closer, they let their attention slip, they push one more step, they take one more chance. It’s not because they’re bad people. It’s because feeling safer changes your decision-making.

And this is where I’ll say something that makes people uncomfortable, but it’s true: a lot of riders who “only ride with a helmet” are doing a form of risk compensation too. The helmet becomes the thing that gives them the courage to get on in the first place—the same way some people will do something questionable because they’re wearing protective gear. It’s not that the helmet is wrong. It’s that the helmet becomes the permission slip. It becomes, “I can handle this now,” even if the real issue is they aren’t confident in their preparation, their plan, or their ability to manage the situation. In other words, the helmet is the substitute for building the decision-making and horsemanship that should be giving them that confidence.

So I’m going to say this as clearly as I can: if I put a helmet on, I know there’s a part of my brain that would quietly give itself permission to be a little sloppier in the decision-making. Maybe I’d ride a horse that I should have ponied first. Maybe I’d stay in a situation a few minutes longer than I should. Maybe I’d try something today that should wait until tomorrow. Not because I’d consciously decide to be reckless, but because the helmet would remove a layer of consequence that currently keeps my decisions tighter.

Right now, the fact that I’m not wearing one forces me to stay disciplined. It forces me to respect the margin. It keeps me in “manage the situation” mode instead of “see what happens” mode. And I’ve spent decades building that skill set—reading horses, reading environments, noticing the small things that are off before they become big things. I’m not guessing out there. I’m making decisions based on a lot of experience, a lot of patterns I’ve seen before, and a lot of hard-earned understanding of how horses think and how wrecks get built.

That does not mean I think I’m invincible. It doesn’t mean I’m above consequences. It means I’m honest about the tradeoff I’m making and the system I use to manage it. Riding horses has risk no matter what you put on your head. A helmet can protect your skull in a fall, and that’s valuable. But it cannot protect you from a bad plan. It cannot protect you from ignoring what the horse is telling you. It cannot replace horsemanship, awareness, and good timing. It’s a layer of protection, not the foundation.

And I want to be careful to say this because somebody will twist it: my choice is not your assignment. I’m not telling anybody not to wear one. If wearing a helmet makes you more confident, and that confidence makes you calmer, and that calm makes your horse better, then you’re probably safer because you’re wearing it. If you’re learning, if you’re riding unpredictable horses, if you’re trail riding in uncertain environments, if you’ve got prior injuries, if your family needs you to come home whole—wear the helmet. That’s not weakness. That’s maturity.

But I’m also not going to perform safety for the internet like a helmet is a moral badge. I don’t judge people who wear them, and I’m not going to accept judgment from people who think a visible piece of equipment is the full story. The full story is decisions. It’s preparation. It’s knowing when to push and when to back off. It’s controlling the variables you can control and not pretending the rest don’t exist.

For those of you who turn this into “you’re influencing people,” I’d add:

“I teach people to think, not copy. If someone’s safety plan is ‘do whatever I saw in a short clip,’ the helmet conversation isn’t the real issue—context and decision-making are.”

That’s the point I want to land on. I’m not trying to win an argument. I’m trying to put the focus where it belongs: real safety isn’t a costume. It’s judgment. It’s discipline. It’s the ability to keep yourself out of bad situations instead of trusting a piece of gear to save you once you’re already in one.