03/05/2024
Emotions are not bad! Emotional intelligence in the church is very much needed. This does not mean to be led by our emotions, but God gave us emotions for a reason. I tell my clients that emotions are to be used as caution signs ⚠️ CAUTION DANGER AHEAD. With caution signs, we have the power to deal with the emotions as the Holy Spirit leads us (either in that moment, or later on that day -remember, don’t let the sun go down on your anger). If someone hurts you, be honest with God and say, “Man, I’m hurt!” Or, “I’m sad. Or, “I’m frustrated!” If we bury our feelings, we never give God the chance to lead us in what we should do. We bury that hurt, it can turn to unforgiveness, and we never get to have that Holy Conflict with that person who hurt us. This is when people end up cutting people off, leaving churches, or allow things to build up and then end up blowing up on that person in the future. Brushing your hurt under the rug is not forgiveness. Going to God and wrestling with the hurt and pain with Him and letting them go is forgiveness. Talking to that person who hurt you about the conflict is another step of forgiveness. God is for communication! This Holy Conflict will make space for God to speak to them and/or speak to you about where growth is needed. These conversations bring healing, repentance, growth, and forgiveness.❤️
