09/04/2026
High achievers can be really good at extending grace to everyone except themselves.
I know because I've done it.. many times.
I built so much of my life around performing. Achieving. Being the best. Getting it right. So when I've made a mistake or something hasn't gone the way I believed it should, I haven't always just learned from it and moved forward.
I've replayed it.
Analyzed it.
Beat myself up over it... and sometimes for weeks.
Anyone else? 😅
I have learned that there's a point where reflection stops being productive and becomes punishment. God never asked me to keep paying for something He already redeemed. That's been a hard lesson for me.
There are so many incredibly successful, high-achieving women walking around looking polished on the outside while internally reliving old mistakes, failures, trauma and versions of themselves God has already called them out of.
Yes, look inward. Take responsibility. Apologize when necessary. Learn. Grow. Get counsel. Heal what needs healing.
But then let God redeem it and move forward!!
You do not become more holy by continually condemning yourself. Your mistakes can become wisdom without becoming your identity.
We talked about this and so much more in What If Gratitude Became Counter Culture? Watch the full episode: https://youtu.be/z8IEQUjVuVk