08/15/2024
Codependency is an adaptive behavior learned when our environment forced us to empathize in order to survive.
Maybe it looked something like this —
- Tapping into others’ experience helped you gauge your own level of safety.
- Finding the understanding to validate someone else helped them feel safe which in turn made you feel accepted and safe.
- Caring about others’ well-being meant you were rewarded.
Empathizing in itself is truly a superpower. To be able to relate to people so deeply and truly feel what their feeling is proof of our profound ability to connect.
But when it comes from a survival-based place, we lose sight of ourselves in the process and it becomes solely about the other person.
It creates stress in our body, and we feel panicked, tense, resentful.
That’s when empathy becomes codependency.
Breaking this pattern down starts in the body, and brings us to a place where we can still connect with others’ experience… but not because we HAVE TO.
Simply because we want to.
This is one topic we’re exploring in my upcoming masterclass series, Reclaim: Healing Heartbreak and Redefining Love.
Your ability to empathize, feel and exercise your sensitivity is great. Learn how to harness it. This is when all kinds of relationships can really take off.
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