04/27/2026
This scene from Hacks captures something most leaders don’t see...Ava knows what needs to be said. But she hesitates. Softens it. Filters it.
Not because she doesn’t have a valuable opinion or lacks clarity. Because the stakes feel high.
From experience coaching leaders & executives 👆 that’s what most feedback in real life looks like.
Not direct.
Not clean.
Not fully honest.
It gets shaped by:
Fear of conflict
Fear of reaction
Fear of consequence
So leaders don’t lose feedback. In most cases, they lose the honesty required for real growth (for yourself & your business).
This is what I call the feedback disconnect. And it has far less to do with communication than what’s happening internally—on both sides.
I break this down & how to create a culture of honest feedback in my latest Deep Dive on Substack. [link in bio]