10/23/2026
We LOVE certainty…Even when that certainty isn't serving us.
I was talking about this on my Inner Circle coaching call the other day because I think it's a big reason we keep repeating habits that we KNOW aren't getting us the results we want.
And I think it becomes especially obvious this time of year.
Because how many of us have already decided how the holidays are going to go?
Maybe you're telling yourself you're going to be SUPER good.
You're going to stick to your normal routine. Keep up your workouts. Stay on track with your diet.
OR…
Maybe you've already decided things are just too busy.
What’s the point of starting anything? Enjoy the holidays. And really buckle down in January.
And I get it.
Heck, I used to struggle with the holidays more than any other time of year.
I'd go in thinking I needed to maintain the exact same habits I'd had all year to maintain my results.
And then slowly but surely, I'd start making excuses for why I couldn't.
Because I wasn't actually owning the reality of my schedule or what I valued at that time.
But here's what's interesting in reflecting on the ALL or NOTHING approach we can take to the holidays…
Even though those approaches SEEM completely different…they're both patterns we've probably repeated before.
And even when we don't LIKE how things turn out, there's a certain comfort in KNOWING what to expect.
Because at least that discomfort is FAMILIAR.
Ultimately falling off when we run out of willpower? Familiar.
Not doing anything to keep repeating the yo-yo dieting cycle, starting over in January? Familiar.
And sometimes we cling to familiar discomfort more than we're willing to embrace the uncertainty of doing something different.
Because change is HARD.
And I don't care how disciplined you are or how badly you want your goals.
We all have our blind spots.
We all have excuses we've gotten really good at validating.
And the sucky part? Our excuses ARE valid.
Work really is busy.
The holidays really do throw off our schedules.
We really do have other priorities that matter.
BUT…Just because an excuse is valid doesn't mean the way we're responding to it is serving us.
And I think this is where we have to be careful about what we call "giving ourselves grace."
Because saying, "Well, we'll just see how this week goes" can FEEL like we're being flexible.
But what does that actually mean?
What are you going to do when you get busy?
What does enjoying that holiday party actually look like for YOU?
What habits are you going to maintain even when you can't do everything you'd ideally like?
If we don't actually define those things, we aren't necessarily creating flexibility.
We're often just leaving the door wide open to fall back into what we've always done.
The CERTAINTY!
Because that's what feels comfortable.
That's what we KNOW.
And this is why I had to stop trying to white-knuckle my way through the holidays and start setting minimums.
I actually went into it asking myself…"How much can I get away with?"
Haha seriously.
How much could I adjust things, enjoy the holidays, do LESS…and still maintain my progress?
And by actually defining those minimums, I created boundaries.
I stopped feeling like I was constantly failing at the habits I SHOULD be doing.
And funny enough? I often ended up doing MORE.
Because success builds success.
The more you do, the more you do.
And the more you prove to yourself that you can keep moving forward even when things aren't perfect, the less you feel the need to start over.
So here's what I want you to consider as we head into the holidays…
What if your goal wasn't to be as "good" as you were in January?
What if your goal was simply to be BETTER than you were last holiday season?
Not perfect. Not doing everything.
Just ONE freaking thing better.
One pattern you don't repeat. One excuse you question instead of automatically accepting. One habit you maintain instead of throwing everything out the window.
Because those little changes add up.
And when we make our lows less low, everything else gets easier.
Not because life suddenly gets easier. But because we've gotten stronger.
We've proven to ourselves that we can do something different. That we can do hard things.
And THAT is how we stop repeating the same cycle year after year.
But first, we have to recognize the patterns we've gotten so comfortable repeating.
And sometimes that's the hardest part.
It's why I created my Fitness Archetype Quiz.
To help you recognize the patterns you default to when life gets busy, motivation drops, or things don't go according to plan by finding your “operating system.”
Because you can't change what you aren't willing to question.
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And before you decide you're just an "all-or-nothing person" or that the holidays are always going to derail you…
Remember…
That's not WHO you are. It's just what you've practiced.
And you can practice something different.
Cori
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I'm Cori, Head Coach + Owner. I’ve spent nearly two decades coaching women 40+ and have helped over 10,000 women navigate fat loss and body recomposition to build stronger bodies, feel more confident, and create results that actually fit their lives.