09/18/2022
The overwhelming feeling of gratitude… and the importance of expressing it!
This post about my cancer path is a little different. No emotionally moving stories and no funny ones either. This is just about how I “feel” and am inviting “you” to act and feel the same. There is something spiritual about having the feeling of gratitude and expressing it.
We’ve all heard well-meaning, kind and caring people make the comment to someone grieving or hurting, “well, it could be worse” (Ok, that is a little funny). That’s not what people grieving or hurting want or need to here. But there is some truth in it! On my cancer journey I’ve met many in the waiting room that ARE much worse off than I! I thank God for being blessed. I pray for those who are facing worse than I am. Someday I (and you) will be in a more dire position as well. It’s inevitable.
This post is really about being grateful for the caregivers and helpers in your life—Give thanks and express your gratitude to each of them.
I have the best caregiver in the world (that’s my story and I’m stickin’ to it). She has been my BEST friend for about 57 years. We met when we were 12 years old in the sheep barn at the Iowa State Fair. Isn’t that romantic! She was a girl and a friend but not my “girlfriend” at that time. That came later. We’ve been married for 48. She has been through pain, suffering, insults, accusations, criticisms, gossip and a load of stressful things because of me. Many things I brought upon myself and she stood faithfully and confidently by my side. Most times it was caused by my own doing. I was doing what I thought was best for my family, my players and my students. I’ve also been injured or sick a lot over our married life. She has ALWAYS been there to provide support, encouragement, care and comfort.
Now, with this latest chapter of our lives, she is right there providing those same things for me in this difficult time. I could NOT do this without her caregiving. God bless her and I publicly want to thank her.
Our children, grandchildren, and their families have been so communitive, supportive, caring, and prayerful and I give thanks to them and express my gratefulness.
We have such loyal, true friends in Ames. Some water our flowers, some mow the lawn, some put out the garbage, some pick up things we need, some give up their ISU FB tickets when I’m feeling like I can go and some even come all the way to Rochester to pick me up to take me home when my #1 caretaker needed a break. And many of you have been messaging us, praying for us, and expressing your love. To ALL of you, I am very grateful.
To all the people who have followed these posts (over 3,000) or click a reaction (100’s) and to all those who leave a heartfelt message, I am overwhelmed by your kindness. Many are from Knoxville and many from all over the United States. I feel underserving. Those who really know me, know I’m somewhat embarrassed by it… but extremely grateful.
This old coach offers this advice to my former players: No matter what situation you are in, no matter what pain (emotional or physical) you have, it’s true that it could be worse. No matter how unhelpful and condescending that phrase seems to be to you, be grateful. Be grateful for the people around you who are your caregivers and let them know how much you appreciate them. And if you feel like you are alone, reach out. There are people who would love to help you if only they knew. Don’t isolate and hide it inside. Speak to someone! It is not a sign of weakness nor is an embarrassment. There are wonderful people who want to be your caregiver in some way. Accept their grace.
(Now, that wasn’t too long, was it? I have some good stories but I have a few more weeks to decide on the good ones)…. God bless you all!