09/10/2022
My cancer journey: Post #3
17 treatments complete… 18 more to go. I’m calling that Half-Way!
Observation 1: My Mayo oncologists are very intelligent, have vast experience and collaborate well. They are a bit cocky, self-confident, and very competitive (it’s like its THEM against the DISEASE and by golly they are going to win!). Like my teams, I wouldn’t want them any other way. The RN’s who work alongside each of them are also very experienced, communicate with me as we go along, advise us on meds, etc. However, none of them are like your family doctor in your small town, their role is a bit different. They do their job and they do it very well.
My “radiation techs” are also well-trained, set things up each day and prep me for treatments. They get me in the exact position I need to be so that this robotic machine can move around me and put the radiation exactly where the doctor wants it. They are also the ones I refer to as my “angels of mercy”. They have that personal touch with their patients. They get to know you, find out where you’re from, what you did for a living, who’s in your family. They provide care and comfort. When they observe something about the patient, they have a direct line to the doctors and call them immediately. The doctors quickly respond to them (even quicker than they do me when I send a message). There must be a high level of trust and cooperation between them. So I ask that you say a prayer for these angels of mercy, giving thanks to God that there are such people here and around you as well. .. AMEN!
Observation 2: The hotel we’re in provides a nice breakfast each morning. The very first day we were there, a young man was attentive to our needs. It was like he anticipated everything we needed. I asked him his name and let’s just say it was Jimmy. He asked for mine. I felt pretty special and less stressed when he was around. He was that way each morning. Then, I noticed something. I wasn’t special. He acted like that with EVERYONE! People knew him by name and he knew theirs. I watched and listened closely. Each person’s face lit up when they saw him as they interacted. Remember that these are guests that are getting treatments, here because it’s serious, and they have significant others who are with them who are stressed as well. I asked Jimmy why he does what he does. He said that people here have serious things to worry about, they don’t need their stay at the hotel to be part of the stress. He wanted to lighten their burdens.
One morning this week I went down early to get something to eat. Jimmy was behind the hot plates making omelets (which he didn’t normally do). I could tell he was having fun and was excited. I also noticed he had 4 hot plates making omelets and had a list on the counter to make more. The hotel wasn’t selling the omelets, but people saw him and decided to have an omelet that morning. When I had an opportunity to talk to him privately, I asked him if he had lived in Rochester all his life. “No,” he answered. His face and body language told me I had hit a nerve. For the first time he lost his smile. I just waited to see what he’d say. “I’ve lived here almost 20 years with my mom, brother, and sister,” he finally said. I didn’t speak. After another pause, he said, “I lived my first 6 years in Guatemala”. I said that was cool and asked if he remembered anything about it. He answered, “Yeah, the trees, mountains, all the rain in the fall and…” He had to gather himself. “And I remember my mom and siblings running up into the forest and up the mountains to hide whenever mom thought there might be danger.” It was an awkward moment, another silent pause. Then I asked if he remembered the mosquitoes! His smile and laugher came back, “Oh yeah, they were terrible!”
I went to a table to eat. When Jimmy wasn’t busy making omelets, he came out and went table to table picking up plates, etc. There was a place for guests to take care of that themselves but I think he did it just to interact with the guests. When he got to my table, I stopped him for a second and said, “Jimmy you an amazing, caring, and respectful young man.” He replied, “Well, thank you so much. You are amazing and respectful to tell me that.” That’s Jimmy. Receiving a compliment and turning around and giving it back. I will never forget him. Every day, we need to be more like Jimmy… Pray for him as well with me….. AMEN!