06/15/2026
Today Bri was working on Dudley’s transitions online. Somewhere in this Horse’s past somebody was hard and fast about groundwork. (likely Clinton Anderson style- yeah, I’ll say it).
Last week she was a little too abrupt, and that brought out tension in him. This week she over corrected and was a little too soft. She would use her body language, but then not follow through right away, because she was focused on not being abrupt. But then he started to ignore her, and blow through her requests.
This is pretty common.
Judging how much pressure to use is a huge part of horsemanship, and the point that I want to make in this post is that there is no single answer that’s always correct!!! Sometimes you’re gonna have to get in their face and be loud and be seen!!! and the very next time you might have to bring it back to a whisper.
Sometimes being on this pendulum is definitely a bad thing as you bounce back-and-forth between causing fear, and being totally ineffective 🫣. But there’s also no such thing as just staying perfectly centered in some make believe perfect middle ground!!! Ideally, you need to learn to work this pendulum with purpose and make it really work for you! If a horse is being emotional and not paying attention, you might need to swing towards the assertive side, but then the moment the horse is focused you need to be able to immediately and dramatically dial it in.
Sometimes you barely give the horse a whisper and you give them a lot of time to figure out and complete your request. But other times you need to demand that they are timely!! And sometimes this happens back to back and you need to know how to use your body language differently, depending on which side of the pendulum you’re currently tapping into.
Whether it’s ground work or riding, sometimes we want an immediate transition and sometimes we want a soft relaxed one. Learning how to ask for each is one skill set, and learning which one is ideal in this moment is another skill set!! 
If you feel like you are always soft and quiet with all of your requests, think about working in some “I need this NOW” type requests. And if you are used to asking for big things now (maybe your initial horsemanship Education was Clinton Anderson DVDs 🫣) maybe focus on some soft gradual transitions and changes of position.
I will say the one thing I’ve always given Clinton Anderson total credit for is lighting a fire under the asses of the stereotypical too soft Grandma type middle-aged women who have no boundaries with their horses. If that’s you, then I guess go ahead and get those CA DVDs. But if you’re the type of person that already tends to go hard, or be abrasive, and is quick to punish, then maybe learn some clicker training. 
Learn to use the cookie and the stick!! And if you are a taskmaster, then try to focus on more praise, and if you know you are a pushover, then learn to shake the damn lead rope!!
But the point that I really want to make is that master Horsemen are not some perfect middle ground-  rather they are the people who have mastered both ends of the pendulum  and can swing back back-and-forth between extremes when necessary!