04/26/2024
OWNERSHIP: are you taking away your own rights?!
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In truth, it wasn’t until recently that I started wondering whether, a good per cent of the time, it’s us the learners and us the speakers that are somehow denying ourselves these Owning Rights to our second language —
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i.e. we’re afraid to grant ourselves this permission to continue extending our production potentials for our ever-changing voices.
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Boy, if I got a penny for every time I heard someone say “Well I’m trying my best to speak like they do..” While there is absolutely nnnnnada wrong with wanting to approximate the model that you happen to be fascinated with — on the contrary, emulating and imitating out of love and fascination is thE way to go, if you ask me — we might be failing to see some of the sensibilities that come with wanting to be “like them”.
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The idea of connecting with someone shouldn’t seem like an elaborate laborious task at all times just because there’s a “them”.
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I promise I ain’t trying to depress no one but I do have an idea-ish: in order to start playing with Your language (and yes, if you’re paying attention, if you care and you’re doing the work, it’s Your language as well), try playing with your beliefs about your space among other speakers as well as about the rather limiting dichotomy: “them the natives” VS us the..who? The ‘non-natives’? Yuck.
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Ezra Klein, one of my very favorite podcasters to listen to, once shared his concerns as a writer and a journalist with Wilco, a writer and a songwriter: When you write stuff like “I assassin down the street”, it makes me feel so much, one of those feelings being a kind of jealousy almost, since my editor would never allow this type of wording in any of my books!
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Ultimately, when it comes to “language-ing”, we all are in the same boat trying to navigate our ways through contexts, moods, and registers. In healthy set-ups, there’s no super-positioned “them” examining your every move and micro-analyzing your skills and competences. There’s a language that wants to serve us all — and it’s that same language that wants (us all) to PARTY!
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So are you still “other”-ing yourself comparing yourself to “them”? Or are you partying?❤️