02/13/2024
🙈 I’m just going to say it…toddler new found need of independence is so hard to handle.
Here’s why ⤵️
Telling your little one to simply “stop” or “no!” won’t get you a toddler listening to every word simply because it isn’t specific NOR is it helping them meet their need of independence.
And here’s how I know this to be true…
Back before kids, I worked as a behavior analyst in clinics, preschools & homes. One of my very first clients was a little 4 year old boy who just craved proving he could successfully do things on his very own, much to his parents dismay. This would frequently look like him wiping the table with his shirt after intentionally spilling his cup of water, knocking pencils off the table to go pick them up, etc. Parents would respond with “no!”, “stop!” and raised this concern to me.
After watching him do this a few times, although it was also for attention… he was looking to be helpful and needed the correct tools in order to stop the intentional spilling, pouring and ruining his shirts. We provided him with teaching for how to clean up even added in more chores.
Once I saw this success I was truly shocked and inspired. Why not provide these opportunities daily for our little ones to really be helpful in our home with daily living skills.
I have applied this strategy to all 3 of my own children and we end up with fewer “no’s” and a more helpful household, all because they are given the right tools and specific requests.
✨ So take it from me…your friendly toddler parent coach…specific requests are way more effective (and fun!) than “no!”.
👉 And if you’re ready to get your personalized strategy in place and finally enjoy your childs toddlerhood, then this is your sign to DM me. 👈