11/12/2019
Hard work pays off.
I have spent most of my life blindly accepting and even perpetuating that statement. From clients, to myself. From my friends, to my children. I have repeated that belief over and over again without thinking. It’s meant as encouragement, as a way to keep going even when it seems like hope is lost. Just keep at it! Hard work pays off!
Except for when it doesn’t. I’ve come to realize lately how disheartening that can be when you are the teenager busting your butt to get a better grade in a class, but despite all the studying, all the late nights, you still end up right where you started. Or what about the aspiring athlete who spends every moment practicing, trying to perfect their craft, only to find out they didn’t make the team? It’s in those situations that I’ve begun to ask myself, “Didn’t that kid work hard?” And almost without fail, I can answer that yes they had. They had given it their all, and still did not reach their ultimate goal. And what about the flip side of that? What about the kid who really didn’t have to work at all? Can we conversely say, “No work also pays off?” Some people never have to work at something, and yet, they reap the rewards they’re seeking with ease.
I think we can also apply this in the context of diet, exercise and eating disorder recovery, too. Hard work pays off. How often have your heard that in the context of working out? It is assumed that the harder you work in the gym, the better your results. The more you work on your diet, the smaller you will become. While often we accept that as gospel, science tells us that the complete opposite can be true. That when you have someone working at maximum capacity in the gym, all while “rocking” their meal plan, they may not lose weight at all. Do we tell this person, working out 2 hours per day while eating a measly 1200 calories that they’re not working hard enough? Is the message still to just keep working harder? Work out harder? Eat even less? It’s a dangerous message and one that is not based on facts. Often exercise is best prescribed as the least effective dose. Do as much as you need to to achieve your goals, and no more. *Continued in comments.