05/12/2026
After working with countless married couples over the past 25 years, I can tell you that spouses say one of the hardest things is continuing to love well when you don’t feel loved well.
It seems to go against everything that's "right" and "fair."
Spouses may not say this out loud (at first), but they start thinking: “Why should I keep trying if YOU aren’t?”
And little by little, love becomes conditional.
Not intentionally.
Just gradually.
You stop reaching.
Stop initiating.
Stop speaking their love language because yours doesn’t seem to matter to them anymore.
I think that’s where a lot of emotional distance begins.
it's typically not one BIG moment, rather continual disappointments that slowly turn into withdrawal.
That’s part of what I’m going to be talking about in a new 5-week guided experience called: After the Love Is Gone
We’re going to talk honestly about:
- emotional disconnect
- limiting stories
- resentment
- covenant
- and what it looks like to love intentionally when marriage feels hard
If that resonates with you, you can learn more here:
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What happens when your love language isn’t being spoken?