05/14/2026
You Are Not the Boss of Me
Remember yelling that as a kid?
Turns out, you were more right than you knew.
What nobody told you: you already have a boss, built-in, since birth.
And, you actually have three of them. And, like most people, you may have handed the corner office to the wrong one.
Let me introduce you to your team.
Your Heart is your CEO.
The CHIEF exec!
Not in the bumper-sticker sense. Literally. It is the part of you that decides what actually matters, what feels true, what is worth your energy.
The CEO (your heart) is the authentic, made for it, LEADER.
The CEO sets the direction. It determines what must get carried forward and what doesn’t fit or work.
When you use a word your heart has already said yes to, your whole system lights up. When you use a word that your heart says no to, the word is just noise.
Your Head is your COO.
The oh-so impressive OFFICER! Brilliant. Hardworking.
Your head has seventeen plans ready before breakfast. But here is the catch. Your head, Chief Officer of OPERATIONS was never designed to lead.
It is designed to execute.
Once your Heart (The Chief!) sets the direction, the dutiful Officer of Operations, your Head, gets to work and runs beautifully.
Give it the right word, the right direction, the right mark, and it will build the road map and follow it. Give it the wrong one, or no real direction at all, and it will organize around resistance as busy-ness.
Your Gut is your CFO. All about things adding up!!
VALUE and RETURNS is the point and purpose.
Your gut is doing a continuous, quiet read all of the time on everything: does this actually add up?
You can say “I am confident” all day long, but if your gut exec is not buying it, the energy behind your words simply will not release.
And here is what makes the CFO different from the other two.
Your CEO/Heart is broad, visionary, expansive.
Your COO/Head is flexible, adaptive, ready to adjust the plan.
But your CFO? Staunch. Rigid. Immovable.
Your gut (CFO) does not negotiate, it does not soften its position to make you feel better, and it will not be talked out of what it already knows.
The gut never lies. And, more often then you would likely like to admit, It just gets ignored.
Note this today and REMEMBER it every day onward… Your CFO is not sabotaging you. It is doing the exact opposite.
And unlike the other two, your GUT will hold its position until the truth catches up with everyone else in the room.
Here is an example of how your bosses work certain words every single day.
The word IMPORTANT.
Most people run that word entirely through the head/COO.
The head makes a list, assigns urgency, and starts managing everything on it. The result? Everything ends up important, which means nothing actually is. You know that feeling. The low-grade hum of overwhelm that follows you from morning to bedtime.
But here is what IMPORTANT actually means at its root.
It comes from the Latin importāre, which means to bring in, to carry into. At its origin, important does not mean urgent or pressured. It means what you are choosing to carry into and forward, into your life and the world.
In short: Important means Importing! What is the good (import) being imported?
When your CEO/Heart uses or hears this word, something shifts. The heart does not respond to urgency. It responds to meaning. “What am I actually carrying here, and does it reflect what I value?” That is a Heart/CEO question. And when the heart answers it, the direction becomes clear.
Then your COO/Head has something real to work with. Not a pressure list, but a valuable import. A purposeful direction. It stops spinning and starts executing on the delivery.
And your CFO? Your gut already knows the answer before you finish asking. It has been quietly signaling you for months about these goods, valued ideas and concepts, that are worth importing (carrying into the space).
When all three, your Heart, Head and Gut are working a wordtogether, in this case, IMPORTANT, your system experiences grounded clarity and stable attention instead of mental or emotional confusion, resistance, or overwhelm.
And that is exactly the point of using your words so they work for you. Don’t just utter them, or use them to merely describe life. Use them to consciously create and to work for your highest favor.
Most people are running their whole lives through just one executive. Uttering words, going through the motions, and wondering why nothing feels like it is landing.
When your Heart has claimed something, your Head has direction, and your Gut has cleared it?
You do not have to convince yourself. You do not have to perform belief. The word becomes something your whole system is organized around.
That is not a metaphor. That is coherence. And it is available to you.
The kid who planted both feet and announced she was nobody’s boss? She was onto something real.
The question worth sitting with is this: How do I get my team to work together?
