08/08/2026
need space to breathe. Talk given in the Community Center. , Fl. In our class.
When we rush to suppress them, judge them, or push them away, they do not simply disappear. They can remain beneath the surface, gathering intensity until they emerge through anxiety, resentment, disconnection, or reactions that feel out of proportion.
The RAIN practice has helped me relate to my emotions differently:
R — Recognize what is present.
A — Allow it to be here without immediately trying to fix it.
I — Investigate with curiosity, noticing how it feels in the body and what it may need.
N — Nurture it with compassion and care.
Allowing an emotion does not mean letting it control our behavior. It means giving it enough presence and understanding so that it can move through us rather than remain trapped within us.
Sometimes healing begins simply by saying:
This is what I am feeling, and I am willing to stay present with it.