06/09/2026
DEAR CHRISTIAN WOMEN, IF YOU GET THIS RIGHT, YOUR MARRIAGE WILL BE THE BEST THING THAT HAS EVER HAPPENED TO YOU.
For the past few days, the Holy Spirit has been urging me to share this, and I can no longer hold it in. Please read this carefully.
The only way a man can lead you the way God intended is if he submits to the Holy Spirit and is led by God first. In life, people can only give what they have, and the quality of a good leader depends on who trained him and who is leading him.
Therefore, the only man capable of leading you in a way that helps you fulfill your purpose—in his life, your life, and in your marriage—is a man who receives his leadership blueprint from God.
I don't understand how some ladies believe that a man who struggles to submit to the Holy Spirit can have their best interest at heart.
Some of you are already in or are planning to enter a marriage with a man who sees himself as the god of his own life. He listens to no one and takes counsel from no one.
If only you knew how dangerous that is. To be a good leader, one must also submit to someone else. Only a person who knows what it feels like to submit to leadership can lead well when the time comes.
A man who will lead you properly must submit to two types of authority:
1. **Spiritual**: The Holy Spirit.
2. **Physical**: A pastor, mentor, or any human authority figure.
A man without both spiritual and physical authority over him is a dangerous man to marry. A man who has no one he listens to is a dangerous man to marry. A man who doesn’t respect authority is a dangerous man to marry.
Marrying a man who doesn’t understand what it means to surrender his will and trust someone else to make decisions that could impact his life is risky.
Let me explain this further.
Submission works best when the person who is submitting knows that the leader has their best interest at heart.
For instance, I submit totally to God because, over and over again in the Bible, God assures me that His plans for me are good and not evil, to give me a bright future. Knowing that my success is part of His plan helps me follow His instructions without fear.
He has promised that I will bear good fruit as long as I stay connected to Him. He has repeatedly shown me that He wants my success even more than I do, and that He desires what’s best for me—not because He craves power, but because He loves me. Knowing this helps me submit, because I know I’m safe in His hands.
When I look at Christ's leadership as the groom and myself as the bride, I see His death as a sacrifice for my safety. That’s why Ephesians says, "Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church. He gave up His life for her" (Ephesians 5:25 NLT).
So, tell me—why wouldn’t I submit wholeheartedly to His leadership? Why wouldn’t I listen carefully to His instructions?
“Christian” ladies, this is God’s word for you.
The Lord has made it clear that you are to submit to your husband in all things. Not some things—all things. "As the church submits to Christ, so you wives should submit to your husbands in everything" (Ephesians 5:24 NLT).
God requires total submission from you, which is why it’s critical to pay attention to the man you allow to take on that leadership role in your life.
Don’t marry any man you cannot completely submit to in all things. Don’t marry a man whose leadership you only respect based on what he has. I’ve seen women lose respect for their husbands when he faced financial struggles, and she had to take on the financial burden for the family.
Marry a man who genuinely has your best interest at heart—a man who has shown time and time again that you matter and that he wants to see you succeed in every area of your life.
Marry a man who listens to God and respects other healthy authorities in his life. A man who doesn’t just tell you things but shows you plans on how he intends to make both your lives great.
Dear Christian woman, choose a man you can submit to in everything, and who loves you just as Christ loves the church.
This is the word of the Lord.
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Cheers,
Profit Eneh
Relationship Coach
