Mary Smith Live Chaos Free

Mary Smith Live Chaos Free aka Chaos Free ADHD. Speaker & ADHD Coach helping families raise motivated, independent kids with ADHD. Distraction and impulsivity seemed to rule me.

I share practical, brain-based strategies for executive function, behavior, and motivation—without relying on rewards or punishment. Growing Up

I grew up with ADHD so, I know what it's like to live in constant disorganization and failure to achieve my potential. I always thought I could do better, I just couldn't will myself to get it done. Eventually, I came to believe its was some sort of chara

cter flaw that kept me from performing my best at anything. Knowing is Half the Battle

Being diagnosed with ADHD at age 35 was both a spiritual and intellectual awakening. I realized I wasn't stupid, my brain is just works differently. Physically, chemically, operationally, I am different from ~95% of the population. And the good news was, I could use that knowledge to learn organization skills, improve my focus and concentration, and soften my social interactions all in a way that made sense to me and my ADHD brain. Why I Coach

I want to work with "kids like me". I want them to know there is an adult who understands thems and what they are going through. I want to be a voice reminding them of their strengths, because they do have them, and helping them reach their personal goals - to not just feel successful but BE successful..

My work has been growing in a really meaningful way, and I’m excited to start sharing it through more through speaking—a...
05/24/2026

My work has been growing in a really meaningful way, and I’m excited to start sharing it through more through speaking—and with a brand that better reflects the mission behind it.

I’m still coaching families every day, helping parents move from daily struggles to calmer, more connected relationships where kids can build real skills and independence.

If you know a school, group, or organization that could use a fresh perspective on motivation and ADHD, I’d love to be connected 💛

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03/30/2026

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02/24/2026

Creating motivation relies on shifting from

"How do I stop this behavior?"
to
"What skill is missing here?"

Behavior is information. Use it.

02/17/2026

What if what you know about motivation is wrong?

I am traveling and had the chance to see an ancient Egyptian temple that was saved from the flooding when the Aswan Dam ...
02/13/2026

I am traveling and had the chance to see an ancient Egyptian temple that was saved from the flooding when the Aswan Dam was built.

The Temple De Bod was rebuilt in Madrid, stone for stone, hieroglyphics and all for a purpose - to preserve a history.

It reminded of a very common hieroglyph - the crook and the flail.

The crook represented guidance.
The flail represented authority.

For centuries, we’ve leaned heavily on the flail in education and parenting — rewards, punishments, clip charts, compliance systems. Especially with neurodivergent children.

But neuroscience — and frameworks like Self-Determination Theory — tell us something different:

Motivation grows from RELATEDNESS (connection), AUTONOMY, and COMPETENCE, not from control.

Neurodivergent children don’t struggle because they lack consequences. They struggle because they lack skill scaffolding.

The question isn’t, “How do we make them comply?”
It’s, “How do we guide them toward capacity?”

Ancient leaders carried both symbols.
What could happen for the children you support, if you learned to use more crook?

02/10/2026

Watching blood sugar is important for ADHD, too!

02/09/2026

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Here's what happens when meeting needs replaces rewards and punishment.

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