03/09/2023
This may hurt, but in my journey I have decided that people need to hear what I have to say. Im sick of people being scared to change because of the "image", this is long but if you want real change in your life, read it.
I have had the pleasure of coaching and mentoring people my whole life. My biggest problem was coaching myself.
"I succeed in everything I do except..."
This is a line I have said a million times over, and I hear it from people all the time. I found that I would use that as justification to be comfortable, mediocre, or a failure at that one thing. But it was that one thing that controlled my self esteem, self efficacy, and my mood. I am in a constant battle with my weight, my eating habits, and overall health. I made excuses to not change because of perceived "issues" here is the list see if you have similar:
1. I don't want to live a life where I can't eat what I want.
2. I don't have time.
3. I'm scared that people will make fun of me if I tell them I can't eat that, or I'm not drinking alcohol.
4. If I admit I'm struggling people will believe I'm a failure.
5. If people see me struggling they judge my family.
6. What if I fail?
7. If I spend time working on me, people will think I'm selfish, I'll lose friends or my family will suffer.
All of those are excuses you use to justify not getting better. So you stay in this cycle of comfort and complacency. I'm here to tell you that when you truly begin a journey of change NONE of those excuses matter and most of them won't come true.
1. You don't have to deny yourself of the food you love forever (some you should though)
2. I promise you have more time than you think.
3. If they make fun of you or don't support you it's because they are projecting their own failures on you. Or they just don't understand where you are at and how committed you are to being better. They will come around, and if they don't too bad.
4. The only way to get better is to admit you've failed. Your struggle is not unique, you are not alone people, need to know your story so they can have the courage to change.
5. I promise REAL people judge you and your family by the way you handle struggle
6. So what if you fail? Recognize the only failure is giving up, or not trying at all.
7. What is more selfish, focusing on your self improvement, being healthier, and living a life your children can model theirs on. Or, not taking care of your self, not spending time with family and friends because you are sick, ill, or too broken because you didn't stay healthy.
Social media allows people to post a snapshot of the great moments of their lives, and no one cares to look deeper at the struggles that were endured or overcame to share that moment. Some of the most empty people on the planet have the most exciting social pages, because they are scared of what others will think. Stop it, share your struggles, share you successes, let people know you are real, let your story be the the one that motivates other to change. And if you want to change, stop being a victim, stop wearing your problems like a badge of honor to be celebrated "because you have it harder", and start putting them in the wind behind you to propel you forward further from them.
Before you say a single word about someone else, look in the mirror dead into your eyes, into your soul, and tell yourself what you really are. After that, try telling me you're perfect or better than anyone else.
