02/16/2026
Pain.
What is the purpose of pain?
“No pain no gain?”
“If it hurts, it’s probably causing an issue, you should stop.”
Pain is about limits and growth. It’s something that you either need to lean into, figure out what needs to strengthen, or it’s telling you, “hey, this is harming you and you need to stop.”
So how do you know the difference.
Physically I think it matters a lot how quickly pain appears, if it is sharp, does it go away, can we repeat it? Is it specific to one movement? What happens when you rest? What happens if you keep going? Pain is supposed to protect you, but it also can limit you, if we aren’t intentional in our reactions, thoughtful and honest, we will hurt ourselves one way or another. Too little/too much is always the question.
For both riders and horses, we expect pain to be a part of the deal to some degree. As athletes we need to build strength, suppleness, and sometimes we get hurt. We fall, get kicked or bitten, etc. our horses are the same.
That being said, the pain that comes with strength building usually feels full, satisfying, and is built onto over time. Injury, we have to treat with great deal of respect and empathy. Without either, we are subject to causing much harm and suffering.
My job as a trainer is to always advocate for the horse while helping them gain strength and find new ways of growing, as a rider, I have learned that I sometimes need to examine my own pain more, in the way I would with my horses.
Emotional pain is the same. When we have traumas, experience panic, and are trying to cope, sometimes we need to take a breath and push on, other times we need to make space to take a beat, reevaluate, and hold ourselves to account.
Nothing about being a horse person is without pain, be it physical or mental and we all need to make sure that we as humans are being wise, empathetic, and considerate of our partners and ourselves.