Obsidian Kollective Healing & Coaching

Obsidian Kollective Healing & Coaching I create a safe space for black women to heal! Obsidian Kollective Healing & Coaching is a safe space for black women to heal!

Gentle reminder from your healing plug…😏NO as a boundary is a clear, firm expression of your personal limit. It’s a way ...
08/06/2025

Gentle reminder from your healing plug…😏

NO as a boundary is a clear, firm expression of your personal limit. It’s a way of protecting your time, energy, values, and well-being by rejecting something that does not align with your needs or desires.

Saying “no” is not a rejection of a person, but a commitment to yourself.

It can sound like:
• “Hell NO!” (My personal favorite)
• “No, I can’t do that.”
• “That doesn’t work for me.”
• “I’m not available for that right now.”

At its core, “no” is a COMPLETE sentence, it doesn’t require explanation, justification, or guilt. It is a healthy, necessary part of self-respect and emotional safety.

Ya’ll be safe and intentional in these healing streets! 💕

❤️🖤💚Happy JuneteenthI AM MY SISTER’S KEEPER!
Black women are often the backbone of our families, jobs, and communities—b...
06/20/2025

❤️🖤💚Happy Juneteenth

I AM MY SISTER’S KEEPER!

Black women are often the backbone of our families, jobs, and communities—but that doesn’t mean we aren’t silently breaking down. You are allowed to rest. You are allowed to fall apart. You are allowed to choose yourself.

Healing is not a luxury. It’s a necessity. Black women are taught to sacrifice, our time, our rest, our peace, for others. But radical self-love looks like reclaiming it all.
 
Here are 3 ways to love yourself loudly and unapologetically:

🖤 Saying no without guilt
🖤 Choosing rest over hustle
🖤 Letting go of what harms your healing
 
You are allowed to take up space. You are allowed to protect your energy. You are allowed to put yourself first. Let this post be your reminder: you are not too much—you’ve just been giving too much for too long.
 

Remember, your thoughts become your words!💭What you think of yourself will eventually manifest outward in your decisions...
06/03/2025

Remember, your thoughts become your words!

💭What you think of yourself will eventually manifest outward in your decisions, your connections, your tolerance, and ultimately how you give others permission to see and speak to you!

AFFIRM YOURSELF, DAILY:
🛑STOP telling yourself that things you haven’t even tried to accomplish will be difficult.
🛑STOP limiting your beliefs about yourself based on others inability to see you as whole.
🛑STOP settling when you know that you deserve the best.
🛑Stop compromising and shrinking so others are comfortable around you.

AFFIRM YOURSELF, DAILY:
✨Speak to yourself with faith, hope and love!
✨Trust yourself and your intuition!
✨Release the need to be liked!
✨Be unapologetically FREE!
✨Take up space!

Deal with yourself as an individual worthy of respect, and make everyone else deal with you the same way.” – Nikki Giovanni 😘

🌈 June is Pride Month & PTSD Awareness Month: This month, we hold space for:✨LGBTQ+ folks celebrating their truth while ...
06/01/2025

🌈 June is Pride Month & PTSD Awareness Month:

This month, we hold space for:
✨LGBTQ+ folks celebrating their truth while carrying trauma from rejection,
violence, or shame
✨Survivors of intimate partner violence who flinch at raised voices but still choose
love
✨Black and brown communities navigating the PTSD of racism - where "safety" is
never guaranteed
✨Veterans who served their country but weren't prepared for the war within
✨Anyone whose wounds don't bleed but still ache

💜 The Invisible Weight of Trauma

PTSD doesn't always look like "shell shock." It's:
🙏🏾Avoiding certain streets where harassment happened
🙏🏾Panic at fireworks (for veterans) or sudden touches (for abuse survivors)
🙏🏾 from code-switching at work as a Black professional
🙏🏾 during Pride when trauma overshadows celebration

All wounds count - even those you can't see.

🕯️ Healing Pathways for Every Journey
1️⃣ For LGBTQ+ Trauma
The Trevor Project - 24/7 crisis support
QTPoC Mental Health - Finding culturally competent care

2️⃣ For Survivors of Abuse:
National Domestic Violence Hotline - 800-799-7233
Love is Respect - Healthy relationship education

3️⃣ For Racial Trauma
BEAM - Black emotional wellness resources
The Nap Ministry - Rest as resistance

4️⃣ For Veterans
Wounded Warrior Project - PTSD support
VA Mental Health - Specialized veteran care

5️⃣ For Complex PTSD
CPTSD Foundation - Healing repeated trauma
Therapy for Black Girls - Finding therapists who get it

🌱 This Month (And Every Month) You Can:
Say no to events that drain you (Pride should feel safe)
Create your own healing rituals (light a candle, write a letter and burn it)
Honor both your joy and pain - Healing isn't about being "fixed" but becoming free

Affirmation:🗣
"My trauma is not my fault. My healing is my right. My story isn't over."

Let’s uplift each other, always. 💕



Wherever you are in your journey this month - surviving, struggling, or starting to heal - you belong here. Your life is worth fighting for.* 💛

🌻💪🏾❤️
05/30/2025

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Healing Our Mother Wounds: A Path to Liberation for Black Women 🌸✊🏾Let’s talk about the silent pain many of us carry—the...
05/11/2025

Healing Our Mother Wounds: A Path to Liberation for Black Women 🌸✊🏾

Let’s talk about the silent pain many of us carry—the strained relationships with our mothers that shape how we parent, love, and see ourselves. These wounds run deep in our community, often wrapped in:

Unspoken expectations 🗣️

Conditional love 💔

The “strong Black woman” burden 💪🏾

But here’s the truth: Your healing isn’t selfish—it’s generational repair work.

Why This Healing Matters
🔹 Breaks Cycles: The way you mother yourself changes what you pass down
🔹 Improves Relationships: Healthier boundaries = healthier connections
🔹 Frees You: Carrying old wounds keeps you from fully thriving

Your Healing Toolkit
1️⃣ Reflect with Compassion
📝 Journal Prompt: “What did little me need from
the mother I didn’t get?”
💡 This isn’t about blame—it’s about understanding
your story.

2️⃣ Professional Support is Revolutionary
👩🏾💬 Coaching provides tools to reparent yourself

3️⃣ Boundaries = Love
🚫 “Mom, I can’t discuss my parenting choices
right”
❤️🩹 Protecting your peace honors BOTH of you

4️⃣ Mother Yourself First
🌸 Speak kindly to your inner child
💆🏾‍♀️ Prioritize your needs without guilt

Affirmation to Repeat:
“I release what wasn’t mine to carry.
I mother myself with the love I deserve.
My healing blesses seven generations.”

A Sacred Invitation
This work is tender. You don’t have to do it alone.

👉🏾 Comment “READY” below if you’re:

Tired of repeating painful patterns

Ready to set loving boundaries

Committed to being the cycle-breaker





📸 Save this post for when you need reminder: Your healing is sacred activism. ✨

FORGIVE THE DELAY OF DAY 5! 🙏🏾The Radical Act of Being Present 🌿Mama, let’s get real for a moment:📱 That phone in your h...
05/11/2025

FORGIVE THE DELAY OF DAY 5! 🙏🏾

The Radical Act of Being Present 🌿

Mama, let’s get real for a moment:
📱 That phone in your hand? It can wait.
🧹 Those dishes piling up? They’ll survive.
💭 Those racing thoughts? We’ll work through them.

Today’s Challenge: Give your child 15 minutes of UNDIVIDED attention. Not perfect attention—just real presence.

Why This Matters:
🧠 Neuroscience shows secure attachment builds your child’s brain for resilience
💔 Distracted parenting (we’ve all done it!) leaves kids feeling emotionally hungry
✨ Those small moments of true connection are the foundation of their self-worth

Affirmations to Shift Your Mindset:
1️⃣ “I release ‘all or nothing’ thinking. Five minutes of true connection matters.”
2️⃣ “My child doesn’t need a perfect mom—they need a present one.”
3️⃣ “When I nourish myself, I mother from overflow—not depletion.”

Pro Tip: Set a timer if you need to! This isn’t about marathon parenting—it’s about quality over quantity.



👇🏾 Tell us in the comments: What’s ONE thing you’ll pause today to be fully present with your child? (Bonus points if it’s something you’d normally multitask through!) 💛

P.S. Struggling with mom guilt around this? That’s your sign you’re exactly who your child needs. 👑

Healing for the Culture: Mental Health Coaching Designed for Black Women ✊🏾💛Tired of being the "strong one"? You don’t h...
05/08/2025

Healing for the Culture: Mental Health Coaching Designed for Black Women ✊🏾💛

Tired of being the "strong one"? You don’t have to navigate stress, motherhood, or fractured relationships alone. I specialize in creating safe spaces for Black women to:
• Challenge thinking errors that keep you stuck
• Rebuild self-esteem rooted in your divine worth
• Strengthen sisterhood bonds (our communal healing MATTERS)

What I Offer:

"My coaching style is a mix tape of intuition, realness, humor, with a splash of girlfriend brunch behavior, the support of your favorite auntie, the spirituality of Neo Soul, and the wisdom of melanin goddesses before my birth."👑

Why This Works When Going It Alone Doesn’t:
1️⃣ Clarity > Confusion
Your "overthinking"? Often ancestral survival patterns. Let’s decode them together.

2️⃣ Tools > Trial-&-Error
Ditch generic advice. Get culturally-aware strategies for Black women’s real lives.

3️⃣ Sisterhood > Solo Struggle
Heal relationships with other Black women—because our collective healing is liberation.

Special Offer (Ends 5/12!):
🔹 Use code BREATHEEASY for discounted coaching
🔹 FREE 30-min Discovery Call (Link in bio!)

Affirmation:
"My healing honors those before me. My peace is my power.
I am ready to thrive—not just survive."



👇🏾 Comment "AUNTIE" to claim your free call + let’s get you free. 💃🏿

The Invisible Load: Why Black Moms Are Running on Empty & How to HealMotherhood is exhausting for everyone—but Black wom...
05/07/2025

The Invisible Load: Why Black Moms Are Running on Empty & How to Heal

Motherhood is exhausting for everyone—but Black women carry invisible weights:
• Systemic barriers that demand we work twice as hard
• Financial stresses that keep us in survival mode
• Unacknowledged emotional labor that leaves us depleted

This constant pressure keeps our nervous systems stuck in fight-or-flight—not just ordinary tiredness, but deep racialized fatigue rewiring how our bodies function.

How This Shows Up in Our Daily Lives:
😰 Hypervigilance – Always scanning for danger, even when safe
🥶 Emotional shutdown – Numb after years of overgiving
🤕 Unexplained pain – Stress stored in shoulders, back, headaches
😤 Short fuse – Small triggers spark big reactions (because you're tapped out)

This isn’t personal failure—it’s systemic wear and tear. But healing IS possible.

3 Science-Backed Ways to Reset Your Nervous System
1️⃣ Hum or Sing Low Notes 🎶
→ Activates your vagus nerve (your body’s "calm down" switch)
→ Try: Humming your favorite hymn or lullaby for 30 seconds
2️⃣ Cold Water on Pulse Points 💧
→ Shocks your body out of panic mode
→ Splash wrists or hold an ice cube when overwhelmed
3️⃣ Ground Through Touch ✋🏾
→ Press hands to chest & whisper: "I am safe right now."
→ Squeeze a stress ball while breathing deeply

Affirmation for Release:
"My body is not the enemy.
I put down what was never mine to carry.
My peace is sacred ground." 🌿

Why This Matters: Black women face higher rates of stress-linked illnesses (hypertension, autoimmune issues) because our nervous systems bear generations of trauma + daily microaggressions. Choosing rest isn’t lazy—it’s revolutionary. ❤️🖤💚

Your Tiny Step Today: Try one reset when stress hits.

👇🏾 Which technique will you try first? Comment below—your journey matters.

Girl! If you don't go set some boundaries... ✨Motherhood often comes with unsolicited advice and unrealistic expectation...
05/06/2025

Girl! If you don't go set some boundaries... ✨

Motherhood often comes with unsolicited advice and unrealistic expectations. If you've heard:
🙅🏾‍♀️"You're overreacting" when expressing your needs
🙅🏾‍♀️"I don't know why you're stressed" about your endless responsibilities
🙅🏾‍♀️"Just ask for help!" from those who should already be supporting you

Your feelings matter. Your needs matter. Your boundaries matter. 🫶🏿

Conversation Starters That Work
With Partners Who Don't Get It:
1️⃣ "When you call me 'emotional,' I feel dismissed. I need you to listen, not judge."
2️⃣ "This isn't help - it's shared responsibility. Let's divide tasks fairly."
3️⃣ "If you think I complain too much, that means you need to do more."

With Intrusive Family Members:
🚫 "I appreciate your concern, but this is my decision as a mom."
🚫 "Our evenings are family time - no visits after 7pm."
🚫 "This topic isn't up for discussion."

Your Boundary Challenge
📱 Send one boundary text today
🧣 Create a visual "Do Not Disturb" signal

Affirmation to Remember
"My peace is my power. My boundaries are love. I model self-respect
By honoring my needs."🗣

Which of these resonates most? Save this for when you need courage.

YOU GOT THIS!💛

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