Molly Purvines

11/16/2022

Single to engaged in 7 months

"Before I started coaching with Molly, I was frustrated with the dating scene. I knew I was doing something wrong but had no idea what to do. I wanted love in my life but pushed it away when someone got too close. It didn’t make sense. Finding love again in my 40’s seemed impossible.
With Molly’s help, I uncovered beliefs that I’d been operating from for years that weren’t serving me. I’ve learned to let my guard down. Instead of putting up walls, I now allow myself to feel things. Not only has that helped in my romantic relationship, but it’s improved other relationships in my life as well. Also, I’ve finally dropped my impossibly high expectations of myself. And I’m finding that I’m being gentler and kinder with myself.
When I met the man who is now my fiancé, I had a total shift. Instead of running in the other direction, which is what I had always done before, I ran towards him instead. I was willing to make myself vulnerable for the first time. It’s scary loving someone as much as I love him. But I feel safe with him in a way I never have before. He’s my rock. And I know we are going to have a really beautiful life together."

Stephanie B.
VP of Legal

10/31/2022

The insults were flying!

It was supposed to be a fun painting class. Just one of those "bring your wine, paint like a kid again" classes. And there I was with nine other creative souls when not more than 10 minutes in, it started.

"I'm terrible at this."

"My pig looks ridiculous"

"This couldn't be worse"

Almost every woman in the group was belittling her own work; one woman more than anyone else. Even as these women insulted their own skills, they reassured the other women that they were doing just fine.

“No, it’s good.”

“You’re doing great.”

It was like a verbal tennis match. Back and forth…insulting themselves, reassuring the others.

As I listened, I was struck by how this mirrored real life. How often do we demean ourselves? How often do we let negative self-talk kill our fun, our spontaneity, our creativity, our value?

Noticing I had been quiet, one of the women asked me, "How's it coming over there?" I could've done what was expected. I could've said that my painting was awful. I could have belittled my talent. But I chose a different story.

I said, "I'm rocking it!"

Shock and confusion registered on her face! I was not holding up my end of the bargain. I was not being a good team player. She needed me to hurl insults at myself too.

But the truth is, I was rocking it. My little piggy was far from perfect, but I met myself with grace. And to me, he was cute! I'm not a painter and I wasn't competing with professionals. I was just there for the fun of it, for the self-expression. I wouldn’t let my inner critic, or that woman, rob me of my joy!

If I hadn't been mindful of my thoughts, I could've easily joined these women in putting myself down. There is a time I would have, for sure! But in that moment, I chose grace. I chose enthusiasm. I chose child-like fun. I chose to love myself...minimal paint skills and all!

What have you caught yourself saying lately? How can you choose differently?

09/30/2022

09/27/2022

This is what an extraordinary life feels like on the inside!

Drop the expectations others have of you. Live your life on purpose, with practice!

09/23/2022

And that starts with a shift in your mindset.

If you've been trying to get there on your own without success, maybe it's time to consider coaching.

09/20/2022

When you've tried everything, and it isn't working...

When you've tried everything, and you still aren't happily living your dreams...

Try this (it's super simple and highly effective)

Stop thinking, "I have tried everything."

It's so simple. Astonishingly simple!

Thinking that you've tried everything cuts you off from creativity, possibility and action! It makes you the victim of your own thinking.

When you don't think, "I have tried everything", you open yourself up to more ideas.

What else could you try?

You know. Don't lie and tell yourself that you don't. Deep down you know. But maybe you are struggling to find it.

I can help you with that.

09/19/2022

Where's the one place you've traveled to that surprised you the most?

09/16/2022

Has this ever happened to you?

Someone says something to you that is meant to be funny (in their mind) but it hits you ALL WRONG! Instead of seeing the humor in it, you're hurt and embarrassed, and most likely angry as hell.

Yep, that just happened to me.

A friend of mine made an insensitive joke to me and I didn't find it funny at all. I immediately found myself swirling in a shame storm and feeling unworthy.

Here's the thing....I knew my friend was kidding. I know my friend cares deeply for me and would never intentionally hurt my feelings. I also knew that my response was disproportionate to the situation. Now, hear me out. I may have had every right to be hurt. But I wasn't just hurt. The hurt was as big as a wrestler on steroids!! Thankfully, it was just jarring enough to knock me into curiosity.

Life is never about what happens to us, its about how we respond to what happens to us.

I realized that this joke hit something inside of me. It had poked at a core wound. Here's where it gets deep...It only crashed into something inside of me because there was something to crash into!

Imagine you are driving a car down a long stretch of highway. The road is clear and open for miles. What's the likelihood of crashing into a 10 ft wall that's spanning the highway? NONE! No chance! Unless....the wall is there. You can't hit something that isn't there.

Once I realized that my friend's joke had crashed into the 10ft wall inside my soul, I had two choices.

Blame my friend. Get angry. Demand an apology.
I could go to work dismantling the wall so that nothing ever crashes into again.

You may have guessed it already, I chose door #2. One of the techniques I used was breathing into the feelings of hurt, anger and unworthiness. And one by one released them from my body. Coming out on the other side, I feel tremendous peace. I even had an insight about how this lesson could help in my business. That joke is the gift that keeps on giving.

So, did I ever get an apology from my friend? Not yet, but I'm sure I will. And if I do, that will be the cherry on the sundae. I never NEEDED the apology and still don't. My peace is never outside of me. And neither is yours.

What are you struggling with right now?

I can help you.

09/13/2022

What does an extraordinary life look like to you? What sort of adventures are you ready to take??

09/11/2022

Today...and everyday....we remember!

09/08/2022

Where's the one place you've always dreamed of going to? What is it about that place that makes your heart beat faster??

Do you have a plan to get there? No?

I might just be the perfect life coach for you! My clients plan their dreams and make them happen!

So tell me, where do you want to go?

09/05/2022

It's International Day of Charity!

September 5th was chosen in order to commemorate Mother Teresa of Calcutta, who in 1979 received the Noble Peace Prize for "work undertaken in the struggle to overcome poverty and distress, which also constitutes a threat to peace"

My way of working towards peace through charity is by supporting women. And by supporting charities that support women, like Days for Girls. This chapter in Kenya is helping thousands of women and girls with menstrual hygiene. Check out their extraordinary work!

https://www.facebook.com/Smile-StarD-Days-for-Girls-Enterprise-Nakuru-1915354788785039/