Kathy Stone Coaching

04/10/2025

Here are some kind words from one of my clients.
I feel so honored to do this work. Supporting people in finding more peace, clarity, and ease in their lives is one of my greatest joys.

If you’ve been curious about coaching or feel ready for a shift, I have a few openings for 1:1 clients and would love to offer you a free session to explore what’s possible.

Feel free to message me. I’d love to connect.

03/30/2025

If you’re ready to relate to your feelings in a new way, I offer one-on-one coaching to help you understand your mind, your nervous system, and your inner world with compassion and clarity.
Send me a message if you’re curious. I’m here to help.

03/24/2025

We’re always doing the best we can in each moment, based on our state of mind, our level of understanding, and what we can see at the time.

But later, when we’re in a clearer headspace, we look back and judge ourselves from a totally different perspective.

The mind says, You should’ve known better. You should’ve done better.

But in that moment, you were coping. Surviving. Doing what made sense with what you had.

So you’re not really judging the action, you’re judging yourself for not being who you are now, back then.

That’s not fair. And it’s not true.

What if you could trust that you’ve always done the best you could?
What if that insight softened the shame?
What if self-compassion, not self-criticism was the way forward?

If this speaks to you and you’re ready to stop looping in regret or self-judgment, I can help you see your experience with more clarity and kindness.
DM me or book a free call to explore what’s really going on beneath the surface. Relief might be closer than you think.

03/18/2025

I remember paying a real estate coach from a highly respected company $250 for 30 minutes ($1,000 a month) back in 2006. I told her I was feeling really anxious, and she told me to sell more houses and I wouldn’t feel anxious. Selling more houses did bring temporary relief, but it didn’t treat the cause of the anxiety, so it didn’t work long term.

Looking back, I wish she would have told me that my anxiety had nothing to do with money or selling houses, because it didn’t. I wish she had helped me understand the real reasons I was anxious. But that’s okay. She was well-intentioned and wasn’t trained in that area.

Still, it’s ironic how all my real estate coaches (I had several of them over the years) taught me to sell more homes but didn’t teach me how to feel safe and secure in my forever home, my mind and body. And when you have that foundation, selling from a place with a self-regulated nervous system is so much
Easier than selling to regulate your nervous system.

Why? Because EVERYTHING in life is easier and less forced when you understand and feel safe in your own home, your mind and body.

When you feel safe in your own home, You don’t personalize everything. You don’t worry. You don’t base your self-worth on how many houses you sell or how much money you make. You have less fear. You don’t worry what others think. You don’t need to overeat or overdrink to feel better(I didnt’t do this but I see many people that do). You don’t over react or blame. You don’t compare yourself to others. You don’t need people to be different. You don’t feel as much or any stress, overwhelm and frustration. You take care of yourself and have more real energy and peace no matter what is going on externally.
You are genuinely happy and free. You have better relationships and a greater sense of well-being. And then you can decide how many houses you really want to sell.

If anxiety is running your life and you don’t feel safe and secure in your own mind and body, I can help. I have extensive experience and training in this work, and I’d love to guide you to real relief, no willpower, no hacks, just real understanding that changes everything. Send me a message today.

03/01/2025

To all my beautiful friends trying to lose weight, let’s get real for a moment.

Your weight is just a number. It’s neutral. You cannot feel your weight. You cannot feel what you look like in the mirror. You cannot even feel the size of your clothes. The only thing you do feel are the thoughts and judgments your mind creates about your weight and appearance.

You think the number on the scale is the problem. You think it’s the reason you feel frustrated, ashamed, or unworthy. But it’s not. It can’t be.
That number does not create your feelings. Your mind does.

I am fat. I need to lose weight. I have to be a certain size to feel good, to look good, to be in pictures. I hate my body. I hate the way I look.

These are just thoughts. They feel so real and so convincing that they trap you in a cycle. A cycle of dieting, restricting, bingeing, overexercising, or numbing out in some way.

A cycle of self-judgment when you fail to stick to a plan. A cycle that makes you believe you will always struggle.

But what if none of that was true?
What if you didn’t have to be a certain size to feel good?
What if you weren’t fat but just a certain number of pounds?
What if you stopped listening to your mind and started listening to your body?

Because your body is not the enemy. It doesn’t need punishment. It needs kindness. It needs nourishment. It needs enough food, not deprivation.

I can help you step back from the noise, see through the thoughts that have been running your life, and reconnect with your body—because your body already knows what it needs. You just can’t see it when you are listening to your mind.

I’ve been listening to my body for over 25 years, and it has never failed me. It has given me everything my mind told me I couldn’t have.

Are you ready to break free from this cycle for good? I can help. Send me a message today!

02/25/2025

I saw a news story about va**ng becoming more and more common among kids, and it made me think about them and about myself when I was younger.

If we want to help the next generation grow up healthier, we should be teaching basic mental health skills in schools at an early age. We have all been conditioned to believe that feeling better comes from something outside of us, that discomfort is something to avoid, and that we need to fix our feelings rather than understand them. But the truth is, discomfort is a natural part of being human. And when kids don’t know how to handle it, they start looking for anything that will make it go away.

If I had learned just a few basic MH skills when I was younger, I don’t think I ever would have picked up a drink. I certainly wouldn’t have smoked a cigarette, and I probably wouldn’t have struggled with food. But I believed every thought my mind told me. When it said I needed to be thin to be loved, it gave me extreme ideas like starving myself or binging and throwing up my food. When I felt stress, my mind told me to smoke a cigarette. When I felt insecure, my mind said to get attention by disrupting the class or get straight A’s.

Kids today are va**ng, not because they love it, but because they don’t know how to handle discomfort. The same goes for drugs, compulsive achievement, and social media addiction. These are all just ways of trying to escape feelings they don’t understand. But the real issue isn’t the discomfort itself, it is that the mind is creating it and then convincing them they need to get rid of it.

If kids knew that discomfort isn’t a problem to solve, that their mind is just spinning stories that make them feel inadequate, they wouldn’t turn to self-destructive habits. They would see that thoughts are just thoughts, feelings are just waves of energy, and none of it defines them. Imagine how different the world would be if every child knew that.
PS I had the greatest parents and still struggled, so it has nothing to do with bad parenting. It’s about the way all of our minds work and how we aren’t taught to see through the stories.

02/21/2025

I’ve been thinking about Justin Tucker lately. I don’t believe he intentionally set out to hurt his wife, his family, his career, or the massage therapists involved. I’m not excusing his behavior, but I look through behavior without judgment as a symptom rather than the problem itself.No one chooses to be addicted or have these habits. Addiction isn’t about a lack of willpower or morality. It’s about the primitive brain looking for relief. I don’t think Justin Tucker ever truly learned how to feel his emotions, like most of us. At some point, his brain probably told him that s*x would make him feel better, relieve stress, and give him a sense of control. And for a while, it probably worked. Just like some people use alcohol, food, or work to escape, he used s*x.

But the brain is always looking for the next fix. Over time, what once brought relief no longer hits the same way, so the brain starts coming up with new ideas, pushing boundaries, seeking novelty, and chasing more. His brain likely said, “This isn’t working as well anymore. Try something else. That will make you feel better.” So he listened. And maybe, for a moment, it did. But then came the shame, the guilt, and the self-loathing.

Here is a guy who is an elite athlete, someone with incredible discipline. Yet all the self-discipline in the world isn’t enough when the urge strikes. That’s why it’s so important to look beneath the surface of the behavior and address the root cause. When you understand what’s driving the urge, you take away its power.

This is what I help people do. If you or someone you know is struggling, I can help. I understand this better than most because I’ve seen firsthand what keeps people stuck and what actually sets them free.

02/18/2025

From 1998 to 2006, I was on antidepressants. I was told there wouldn’t be withdrawals, but I definitely experienced them. They weren’t as intense as some other withdrawals I’ve been through, but like any withdrawal, you walk through the discomfort and come out the other side.
I’ve withdrawn from alcohol, to***co, several medications, binge eating, caffeine, you name it. I have nothing against medication; in fact, it helped me at the time. But in my experience, it didn’t address the root cause of my depression. Even the best doctors I saw never really looked deeper. They told me I had a chemical imbalance and would need medication for life. I struggled with the side effects and knew there had to be another way.
So, I started researching for myself. What I discovered was life-changing. My depression wasn’t just something that happened to me. It was fueled by my addiction to thought, to the repetitive, habitual stories my mind kept spinning.
Once I saw those stories for what they were and learned to separate myself from them, everything shifted. Fast forward to today, I haven’t been depressed in years, and I don’t believe I ever could be again because I understand my mind and how it works.
This is just my experience. I’m not telling anyone to go off their meds or that medication is bad. I’m sharing because I wish someone had shared a hopeful experience with me. If you ever want to chat or explore a different way of seeing things, I’m here. You don’t have to stay stuck.

02/09/2025

02/06/2025

02/05/2025

I saw an ice cream shop owner on the news last night, talking about how the price of sprinkles might go up by 10 cents, and how he’d have to pass that cost on to his customers. And I thought… really? Sprinkles? Our bodies don’t even want or need them! Yet here we are, worried about sprinkle inflation while the world is grappling with wars, a mental health crisis, cancer, fires, gun violence, and so much real devastation.

But I get it. Our minds crave certainty, so we latch onto stories about what might happen next. My mind does it too: “The stock market’s going to crash, you’re going to lose everything!” It’s what the mind does. But here’s the thing: it’s not useful. Because no one actually knows what’s coming. Could we have predicted 9/11? No. COVID? No. And I certainly couldn’t have predicted how my own life would turn out.

The truth is, it’s all neutral—because we have zero control over any of it. I’m not saying we won’t feel things. Fear, sadness, insecurity—they’re part of the human experience. I feel them too. But at the end of the day, the only thing we really have is the present moment.

So, the real question becomes: What can I control right now?
Can I let go of wishing things were different and be here for what’s actually happening in this moment?

More importantly, how can I appreciate and be present for the simple things in front of me?
Making my bed—because there are people in the world who would give anything just to be able to do that.
Loving the people closest to me—because life is unpredictable, as we’re reminded every time we hear about things like that recent plane crash.
Taking care of my body and mind—because if I want the strength to walk through whatever comes my way, I need to build that strength now.
And trusting God with the rest.

This is where life is happening. Right here. Right now.
Everything else is just sprinkles.🧁😊

01/18/2025